What Will You Do For The Rest of Your Life to Live The Life You Want?

When I was a little girl, my father had an amazing dream for my life.  I would grow up, go to medical school and become a doctor.  I was actually on that path for most of my life.  As an undergraduate, I majored in Biology then soon realized I enjoyed Psychology more and switched.  But I was still determined to make my father proud.  I received my Bachelors in Clinical Psychology then returned a year later to puruse a 2nd Bachelors in Biology.  I was doing all that was necessary to live the life that my father desired for me.  I attended classes 2-3 times per week, Organic Chemistry, Physics, Biology, labs, internships, etc.  I did it all.  I was committed to the process that was necessary to become a doctor.  However, I soon realized that I wasn’t living the life I desired or pursuing my dreams and goals.  I don’t even think I had a dream or goal of my own.  The closest thing in my life that reasonabled anything I enjoyed was the part-time job I had working for a bank.

My sophmore year in college I took on a part-time job working at a bank.  After 9 months as a teller, I was promoted to Lead Teller.  I enjoyed the customer interactions, sales and marketing, training new hires, preparing for audits and even the stress.  You see the job that I had was feeding a desire that I had yet to discover.  I stayed in banking for 10 years.  And during those 10 years, I started a couple of businesses.  I was a tutor.  I marketed and promoted my services and had a great clientele.  I also started a monthly newsletter.  I sold ad spaces in the newsletter, interviewed local residents and shared words of inspiration.  I hope you see what I am getting at.  Even when I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life, life was speaking and guiding me.  Now more than ever I am sure of what I want to do with my life and the life I want.

Life You Want Work


A little over a week ago, I attended Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend in San Jose, CA.  I really didn’t know what to expect from the weekend.  I knew that I had Oprah on my vision board and a goal of mine was finally happening.  I also knew that I was ready to live the life I want but not sure on how to do it.  Well the weekend was everything that I needed and more.  Oprah had us do an assignment on Saturday which required us to “See your life today”.  We had to divide our lives into what is important to us.  Once you determined what was important to you, you divided the circle up into those areas by percentage.  Then came the hard part, you had to determine how satisfied you were with each area.  We used happy faces, solemn faces and sad faces.  I soon realized that there were a lot of areas in my life that I am not happy with.  However, I also realized that this weekend was all about giving me the tools to change that.  Oprah challenged us to do something daily for the next 365 days in order to live the life you want.  So I am going to share with you all some of things that I will be doing in order to live the life I want.  By sharing, I am also hoping that you all will also hold me accountable, check in with me by leaving a comment on my post and/or take this challenge with me.  If you are going to take the challenge with me, use the hashtag #OneThingDaily when sharing what you are doing.

So here it goes.  I have been working on marketing strategies for the past few weeks.  I recently had an “aha moment” and realized I can apply the same technique from a marketing strategy to a “life strategy”. When working on a marketing strategy, you focus your efforts on a few areas that all support the overall marketing goal.  If the marketing goal is expanding your online reach, one might focus their attention on their social media platforms and what they can do on each platform to encourage growth.  For example, posting 3-4 pictures on instagram daily using specific hashtags to reach your audience, creating and scheduling 20 tweets to cycle daily on your twitter account, writing 3 post or more on your website per week, recording YouTube videos, etc.  All of these activities combined together can help achieve the ultimate goal of expanding your reach.

So here is my #OneThingDaily list of things that I will incorporate into my life some won’t be daily but have regular time and attention given.

-Family – I love spending time with my family and will continue creating memories with my children.

-Faith – Oprah and Iyanla spoke about having a daily spiritual practice.  I will continue to pray, read my Bible and meditate daily.

-Workout – I finally think it’s time to start going to the gym.  Especially since there are a few more red carpets that I want to work in the near future.

-Writing – I will be writing/blogging a lot more regularly on my site (3 times per week Lord willing) and for the local newspaper that I write for.  My goal is to strengthen the gift that God has given me.

-Radio Host – Yes, I am officially the Co-Host on Gospel Central Blog Talk Radio.  I hope to share my voice and message with you on a regular weekly basis along with my co-host.

-Knowledge – I will be reading more and I am also looking into taking a class or two.

-Multiple Streams of Income – I am going to be working even harder on generating an increased income through all of my streams.

-Travel – I am getting my passport updated.  I am going to be planning a lot more trips for business and for the experience.  I want to see the world and capture the moments in words and pictures.

-Home – To be continued…I am thinking a big move may be in my future.  But for now, I am settled and content with where I am but I can see my future home more clearer now than ever.

-Shine – I am going to allow the true essence of me to shine brighter than ever.

The key to living the life you desire is being persistent, intentional and conscious while pursuing your dreams and goals.  What are you going to do daily?

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SoulCycle: SOUL15 at Oprah’s Life You Want Tour Took Me There in 15 Minutes

Oprah's Life You Want Tour - Soul15

So I am still on a natural high since attending Oprah’s Life You Want Weekend tour in San Jose, CA last weekend.  But out of all the things that keep coming to mind, SOUL15 is at the top of the list.  I know I have mentioned it time and time again that I do not work out and have not since highschool circa 199? (I am not telling ya’ll my age).  But SOUL15 is definitely going to make me rethink this and maybe one day I will be a professional runner in some sneakers, on a track, in gym clothes.  Okay I might be pushing it a little but this workout moved me like never before.  As a matter of fact, before I knew it, I was in tears.  Yes you read that right.  I was working out, marching it out, doing some arm rolls and squats when I realized the tears were falling and I couldn’t do anything to stop them.

SoulCycle Instructor, Angela Davis and Senior Master Instructor, Stacey Griffith incorporated a Sunday morning message into the workout that spoke to me.  The message reaffirmed the physical and spritual journey that I am on to be all that God has called me to be.  As I looked around at those sitting closest to me, I realized that I was not the only one that felt a deep spiritual breakthrough during the workout.  I’m going to need a 15 minute video of this workout stat.  I’m ready to go from glory to glory and faith to faith with mind, BODY and soul fully onboard in 2015.

SoulCycle currently operates 30 locations and is looking to have 60 locations by 2016. I hope one of those locations is in Las Vegas, NV.  Sin City needs you!



More About SOUL15:

SoulCycle has created SOUL15, an innovative exercise experience customized for Oprah’s The Life You Want Tour.  SOUL15 is a 15-minute cardio-dance experience inspired by a traditional SoulCycle Class.  SoulCycle Instructor, Angela Davis and Senior Master Instructor, Stacey Griffith, lead an inspirational exercise routine designed to help people at all levels of fitness find joy in exercise.  The SOUL15 segment on Oprah’s The Life You Want Tour integrates LED light bracelets synched to music in a dark arena setting, which illuminate the stadium with every arm movement.  True to a signature SoulCycle class experience, participants move together as a pack to the rhythm of the music and are encouraged to set an intention for their experience and clear away the physical and emotional obstacles that are holding them back.

Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend Final Stop


The Life You Want Tour Final Stop

Oprah Winfrey wrapped up her final tour stop of her eight-city arena tour of Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend (November 14- 15, 2014) in San Jose, CA. Over 10,000 people filled the SAP Center in downtown San Jose. If you were in the area, you could fill the energy even from outside the building. Some attendees came desiring to write a new vision for their life or to turn a lifelong dream of witnessing Oprah live into a reality while others were hoping for words of confirmation. Whatever their purpose was for attending, they indeed found what they were looking for.

O-Town kicked off on Friday evening welcoming guest as early as 10am. O-Town was a pop-up town square outside the venue that gave guest the opportunity to interact with The Life You Want Tour sponsors. Guest could enjoy various activities, makeovers, photo ops, food and music to keep their energy level up throughout the weekend. DJ Kiss kept the crowd dancing and energized while awaiting the evenings guest of honor. The energy level only increased as the time grew closer for Oprah to take the stage for An Evening With Oprah.

She engaged the audience with a narrative of her life and how she had come to know some things for sure. The audience came to know the humble beginnings of the little girl from Mississippi that learned to read by her grandmother, was raped at the age of 9, became pregnant at 14, birthed a son that passed shortly after delivery but recognized her second chance at living the life she desired. “There is always a second chance. If you are still here, you get a second chance to get it right” she said. She left nothing out about her life when speaking of her journey to turn her life around; reiterating the importance of having a spiritual life. She had come to understand the power of God at an early age, quoting one of her favorite scriptures, “Acts 17:28 For in him we live, and move, and have our being…”. When she was uncertain of what to do, she rest assured that the answer would come during her quiet time with God under the oak tree. And then center stage she began to sing I Surrender All. She was the only one to speak on Friday evening but the seeds planted would continue to grow into something more on Saturday as she introduced each Trailblazer.

“It has been a dream of mine forever to create an event where you can wake up to all of your potential and possibilities. If you come and spend two days with me and a team of true life trailblazers – Deepak Chopra, Elizabeth Gilbert, Iyanla Vanzant and Pastor Bell – your life is going to light up.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

Oprah not only lived out her dream but she provided the tools for her audience to awaken and achieve theirs. Each trailblazer brought a different source of enlightenment to the weekend for an entire mind, body and spirit experience. If you hadn’t been moved to tears on Friday, you were sure to reach for a kleenex on Saturday. In between the speakers on Saturday, Oprah guided the audience in “life work”, reflecting, coming to terms with where they are, what they desire and creating a new vision through meditation to achieve their deepest desires.

Iyanla Vanzant

At the conclusion of The Life You Want weekend, Oprah’s Trailblazers expressed there gratitude and honored Oprah with their words. It was a moving display of their appreciation to be afforded such an amazing platform to share their journeys. So what better way for those in attendance to honor Oprah than by also giving her their words. Below find some of the words from those in attendance in various States along the tour and how they plan to use the tools provided to them during Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend.



LYWW-San Jose

I will do something daily in order to live the life I desire.

I will…create the life I want by dreaming big, setting audacious goals and continuing to dream and act BIG. ~ Stephanie B. – San Jose, CA

I will not only create a new vision for my life but walk in it.

I will commit to wake up looking for the light + seeking ways to serve others. I’ll continue to embrace the life I have as I work toward creating the life I want for my family + my business. ~ Camesha G. San Jose, CA

I will listen to the whispers of life that speak to me and guide me along my journey.

I will dream bigger dreams for myself and know that I’m worthy of them. I will pursue them knowing that I have within me what I need to achieve it. Through this process I will work to inspire others to do the same. ~ Jenn B. Houston, TX

I will stand and walk in courage believing that the life I desire is on the other side of every obstacle.

I will live a life focused on gratitude and service to others. I will make no excuses for my joy and accept the blessings that I receive. I will embrace the wonderfulness of life and focus my energy on those things that align with my passion and purpose. I will strive to embrace my divatude on a daily basis and motivate others to do the same. ~ Michelle G. Atlanta, GA.

I will be the best authentic version of myself possible.

I will design my purpose & bring it to full manifestation after seeing Oprah, Kim Garst & Simon T. Bailey this year. All where GREAT game changers for me. I will shine brightly and make each one see the POWER of their teachings and word with me. ~ Kimberly W. Atlanta, GA

I will show compassion when offended, love when hated and be still in peace when confused.

I will deepen my spiritual practice and repeat daily affirmations of what I want in life to myself. ~ Jenee D. San Jose, CA
I will serve with pure intentions.
I will not leave the little girl in me behind that was once wounded. I am her and I wouldn’t be here or get to where I’m going without her.
I will share my story. My valleys, my triumphs, my fears, my joys, my frustrations and my peace so others fighting to live the life they too desire can see that no matter what comes their way, it’s possible.
I will not take this gift that you so freely gave for granted.
I will rise. We will rise. Together we will rise.

If you attended Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend during any of the eight tour stops, leave your “I will” statement in the comments and share this post.