Wellness Wednesday: Choose You

Vallejo Times Herald photo“As you become more successful and further down the road of purpose, more opportunities will come your way. It doesn’t get easier to decide between each one but the wisdom gained along the way makes it easier to know which one(s) are best for YOU.  Choose you” ~ Rhachelle Nicol’

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Goodbye October

This yeagoodbyer for me October represents an end of a chapter and the start of a new one.  I began preparing for October in June.  As a domestic violence advocate, my goal was to have a series of My Scars Chats panel discussions in different cities and states.  I planned and hosted two in CA, one in Sacramento and the other in Oakland.  I have so many more ahead being planned for the upcoming year.  I was invited to speak at UC Berkeley as well.  So the advocacy will not stop just because October is over.

October forced me to be clear about what I want and desire out of life.  I had to abandon my fears and forge forward.  I spent time reflecting over my life and the experiences that have led me to this point.  I was able to share with you some of my reflections through the #WhyILeft post.  Everything that I have gone through has a greater purpose than any of the pain that I endured.  The time spent reflecting gave me even a greater confidence in knowing that whatever comes my way I can make it.  Goals that I have had for years are being achieved and it is the best feeling ever.  I couldn’t have asked for a better way to spend my Ocotber.  I can’t wait to spend the next 30 days in November just giving thanks.

 

 

I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

http://www.rnbranddesign.bigcartel.com

Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

My Scars Chat – Oakland

My Scars Chat Oakland

Wow!! In just two weeks, I will be in Oakland, CA for another My Scars Chat. Time sure does fly when you’re having fun. The feedback from My Scars Chat – Sacramento was amazing. I want to give a special thank you to Michael Minnick of WEAVE Inc., a local domestic violence organization in Sacramento, that not only volunteered his time to speak on the panel but also provided brochures.  Every My Scars Chat has been different thus far. Resources vary from City to City and State to State. However, I am thankful that I have been able to get so much support from various community resources in each City.  Someone reached out to me and asked if I could live stream the upcoming Chat and it looks like we are going to be able to make that happen.  So stay tuned for details about how you can view My Scars Chat – Oakland from where you are.

We have some amazing sponsors that are supporting our efforts of getting the word out. Make sure you take out some time to visit Divas With A Purpose a great community of women, empowering, inspiring and motivating one another. There is definitely a little bit of Diva in us all. Also, make sure to visit Butterfly L.U.V. for all of your lipstick and lipgloss needs. Lets kiss domestic violence away!

If you are looking for ways to get involved during October, domestic violence awareness month, here is a list:

Contact you local domestic violence shelter and consider volunteering

Wear purple. Purple is the color for domestic violence awareness.

If you are a survivor, break the silence and share your story.

Support a cause that is bringing awareness.

I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

http://www.rnbranddesign.bigcartel.com

Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

Dear Blogalicious

Dear Blogalicious,

Wow, has the time passed at a speed that I am still trying to catch up to. I still remember last year’s Blogalicious’12 Conference as if it were yesterday. Blogalicious’12 took place right here in Las Vegas, NV. I was a last minute attendee but like the saying goes “better late than never”. I was so eager to learn and take in as much information as possible.

I remember telling my friend, “I’m going to be on that stage next year speaking”. When you set a goal and follow through with it anything can happen. I am excited to be sitting on a panel with 3 phenomenal women at this year’s #Blogalicious5, discussing “Spreading a Message, Sharing a Mission: A Conversation About Awareness Blogging.” The topic alone is very dear to my heart and the opportunity to share with others is priceless. We all write about sensitive topics while bringing awareness. Jenee Darden, whom I got the pleasure of meeting at last year’s conference, will be the facilitator. She is an award-winning journalist from the Bay Area, being from my home State quite naturally it was like we had known each other forever. She writes about mental health and also works as a mental health advocate. Lisa Quinones-Fontanez is the founder of AutismWonderland, an award winning blog, that Lisa uses to chronicle her families journey with autism and share resources. Christine Koh is the founder and editor of Boston Mamas, a lifestyle parenting portal and wears many hats. She has been featured on multiple media platforms, The New York Times, ABC News and Fox 25 just to name a few. So I guess it is safe to say I am in good hands. These ladies rock!

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I walked away from last year’s conference inspired beyond belief. I am now counting down the hours until I clock out from my day job and board my flight headed to Atlanta. I think I actually clocked out on Monday because all I have been able to think about is #Blogalicioius5. I can’t wait to share with you all upon my return. But until then, you all keep showing your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

www.rnbranddesign.bigcartel.com

Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

Why I Show My Scars

I show my scars
6 years ago, I arrived in Las Vegas, NV on the bus with my 3 oldest children, one on the way and a suitcase. I wanted to start over and escape the hurt, pain and shame that had come from the choices I had made. I soon realized that no matter how little baggage that I physically carried with me, I was carrying so much more emotionally. Having escaped a near fatal suicide attempt, I knew I wanted to live but I didn’t know how to release the pain so that I could even breathe. All I knew how to do was to keep going about with my life as if everything was okay.

I found employment within the first two weeks here. My children and I moved into our apartment but it was so hard to make it a home; I was broken. I didn’t know how to surrender all the baggage and issues that I carried with me. They had become so much a part of me, I didn’t know that I could release them and find a greater peace. Things went from good to better and then quickly to worse. My internal turmoil was having external impacts on my life. I lost everything; my career, car, home was all gone. But I had been in that very place before prior to my move. Why couldn’t I be free from all the pain?

I had tried everything to escape and get some relief. Even after being born and raised in the church, I didn’t truly understand how to surrender it over to God. “Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.” I Peter 5:7 I knew the scripture but I didn’t understand how to apply it to my life. I had been taught to keep everything inside. “What goes on in this house, stays in the house” is what laid the foundation for the prison that my soul was being held captive in. I prayed and I cried out to God like never before. I asked him to show me my heart and those things that were causing me to self-destruct.

It wasn’t until I was able to give it all over to Him that I was able to heal. I was able to trust Him completely with all of my issues, heartache and pain. He in turn gave me so much more. He gave me a new life in Him with purpose, vision and compassion for those who may still be suffering. “I show my scars so that others know they can heal.”

This journey has not been an easy one. If you recall my post titled “Don’t Quit“, I was on the verge of throwing in the towel but He whispered “don’t quit”. The blessings and doors that He has opened since have been more than I could have ever expected and they haven’t stopped. On this Wednesday, I fly out to Atlanta to meet one of my favorite gospel artist, Le’Andria Johnson, Sunday Best Season 3 and Grammy award winner. That was nobody but God. I hope that each time I share a portion of my testimony and show my scars, I can inspire just one to keep on holding on, don’t ever give up. God has so much in store for you. He has not and will not forget His promise concerning you. Join the I Show My Scars Challenge, someone needs to see your scars.

I love you and there is nothing you can do about it!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

www.rnbranddesign.bigcartel.com

Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

Dare To Dream: RN Brand Debuts In The UK

Dare To DreamI don’t believe that things happen by coincidence or even by chance but when your dream is bigger than you, I do believe in divine connections. Last year, I connected with Antonina Griffin, Founder of S.C.A.R. Foundation. I was promoting the “My Scars” tee like I always do and around October she ordered a few. When she received them, she posted on my wall “I try to show my SCARs as much as possible and your brand is going to help me. Wonderful job Rhachelle”. I don’t think either one of us knew what would happen next or where the virtual relationship would take us. We talked a few times on the phone, would send text and like and share one another’s facebook post. But God was definitely working some things on the back end. I had been working hard to get my line off the ground.

In December, Antonina Griffin created a YouTube video sharing her powerful testimony of overcoming. The video went viral. We spoke shortly after and could not believe what was taking place. I told her I would help her in anyway that I could, website creation, etc. We both agreed that people were in search of healing and hope. However we were able to get that message across, we were determined to do it. Then I got a call, “I am going to share your shirts and I just want to make sure that you are ready”. This is what Antonina was saying to me on the other end of the phone. I thought to myself, I have some shirts, the usual stock that I keep. I responded, “Okay!” A week may have past or so, then I received another call from Antonina. She wanted to place a wholesale order for the “My Scars” Tee. Let’s just say that by the time the actual order of shirts were shipped, close to 200 shirts were sent to North Carolina.

Also, due to the overwhelming response from her YouTube video, Antonina was extended the opportunity to travel to the UK and share her testimony. Guess what she decided to bring along?!? My Scars in the UKYes, the “My Scars” tee. Who knows if I ever would have made it to the UK. I been out of the country one time and my passport has since expired. But God! Antonina was a speaker at the Dare To Dream 2013 event and I am quite sure that her testimony has left a lasting impact on the people in attendance. The “My Scars” tees are now being worn and the UK is “Showing Their Scars”!!!

“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.”

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

www.rnbranddesign.bigcartel.com

Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

Don’t Quit (Pt. 2)

A week ago I wrote the first Don’t Quit post. Those very words had been playing over and over in my head. Usually when that happens, I have to do something with what I’m hearing or seeing or it will persist. So as I often do, I wrote about it. I wanted to hopefully inspire someone even though at the time I was feeling rather uninspired.

The month of January had taken me on an emotional roller coaster. I applied to countless jobs only to get one call back and an interview. A few days after that interview a dear friend of mine passed away unexpectedly. I began to doubt and second guess everything I was doing and even whether or not I should remain in Las Vegas, NV. I’ve gone through a lot in the 5 and a half years that I’ve been here.

After hiding under my covers for almost a week grieving, I was notified that I did not get the position. Which was probably best given my emotional state. The entire month of February, I assisted my dear friend’s 25 year-old daughter with going through the necessary process of gaining legal guardianship of her younger siblings. I also began planning my departure from Las Vegas.  Yes, I was prepared to throw in the towel and head back to California to be around my family.

The Queen Maker BoutiqueThe last week of February is when things began changing. I wrote the don’t quit post and immediately something shifted. I was contacted by two different individuals that were interested in purchasing “My Scars” tees in bulk. One being Domonique “Pastor D” Scott from TLC’s The Sisterhood and the other a friend in North Carolina. The simple words “Don’t Quit” took on a greater meaning in my life. I now had a reason to fight for everything that I’ve worked hard for in this past year.

And if that wasn’t enough, I received an email last week from the one job that I had interviewed with that had decided to go with another candidate. I was asked if I was still looking for a position. Of course my response was yes. We scheduled a time for me to go in to meet with them again. Well I am now the Creative Attaché for a National Business Development Company, delayed but not denied.

God knew that with everything that had transpired in January that I would not be able to take on a job at that time. But He also saw all my other needs and provided for each one of them, financially, physically and spiritually. You may not see a way out of your present situation. You may feel like every door and opportunity has been blocked but don’t quit. God is faithful and His timing is always perfect.

If you have been following my blog for a while, then you also know that my background is in Psychology. I did not go to school for Journalism, PR or anything relative to that field. I have just been using the gift(s) that God gave me. Last year, I was given a position with a local newspaper as a Staff Writer. Now, as a Creative Attaché, I will be utilizing those same gifts that I have worked hard to develop for the past few years to fulfill the job. And RN Brand Tees will be sold in 3 different States and will make their debut in the UK in two weeks!!! Your gifts will make room if you Don’t Quit!!!  Many of us quit just before the  point of a breakthrough but hold on and hold fast.

“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.”

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

www.rnbranddesign.bigcartel.com

Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

Merry Christmas

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Christmas tree (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

Wow another Christmas is here!!!  The smell of Christmas trees, the sight of dancing lights, the cold winter nights, it’s beginning to feel a lot like Christmas.  It seems like it comes faster every year and it takes me a while to get into the Christmas spirit.  These past couple of days have been spent snuggled up with my children on the couch playing video games.  Everyday they have pleaded to open a gift  but I have managed not to give in.  Watching their excitement and anticipation build is priceless.

 

I am just thankful that we once again received a Christmas miracle.  This year came with many challenges.  But those challenges revealed what was in me.  I was crushed and pressed in more ways than one.  The pressure pushed me to tap into so many gifts that I did not realize I had been given and even feared using.  But they have been unwrapped and I am not wrapping them back up.   So while my children enjoy their toys on Christmas day, I will be celebrating and enjoying the greatest gift ever, purpose.

 

What gift are you hoping for this Christmas?

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

www.rnbranddesign.bigcartel.com

Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

 

 

Book Review: Walk In Your Power

Walk In Your Power BookKanina Johnson did an excellent job breaking down the Law of Attraction along with 11 other universal laws.  Walk In Your Power was a quick and easy read but it was full of a wealth of wisdom and knowledge.  It is not often that I will do a book review.  I usually stick to author interviews or guest post features.  After reading Walk In Your Power, I knew that I had to write a review.  Kanina Johnson begins the book sharing some of her personal story and why she desired to seek out the knowledge and wisdom that she shares.  I connected with the author early on from her personal story.  Johnson wrote the book in a way that was so easy to understand and apply the tools.

This book taught me so much about the scriptures that I meditate on, the promises that I know God has spoken into my life and how to truly welcome those promises into my life.  For a lot of believers, I have noticed it is hard for them to embrace and attempt to understand the Law of Attraction.  For some, they feel that the belief in the Law of Attraction is contrary to believing in God.  Walk In Your Power does not add or subtract from who God is.   While breaking down the Law of Attraction, Walk In Your Power gives more incite into the scriptures that we have been taught but so many lack true understanding.

Walk In Your Power covers the Law of Attraction and 11 other Universal Laws that operate in our lives, whether we are aware of them or not.

1. Law of Thinking: “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”  Proverbs 23:7

2. Law of Forgiveness: “Forgive and you shall be forgiven.” Luke 6:37

These are just a couple of the laws that were mentioned.  I made so many notes and I am sure I will be reading this book again.  One scripture that comes to mind is Philippians 4:7, “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”  Focus on those things that you desire in your life and more of it will be added.  When we choose to honor God with our lives our thoughts should align.

Walk In Your Power closes with a discussion on vision and purpose.  One quote that stood out to me was, “You will not see the second step until you have taken the first”.  Start moving forward in the vision that God has laid out for you.  Trust that He will order each step if your trust Him with the first.  Get your copy of Walk In Your Power. You can also connect with Kanina Johnson on Facebook.

About the Author

Kanina Johnson, a licensed Bob Proctor Life Success Consultant, wrote Walk in Your Power to reveal life secrets and universal laws that she has seen at work in her own life and is eager to share with others. She has devoted her life to helping others manifest their personal potential.

 

3 Things You Must Have in 2013

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Vision_Board_Sept_2010_inprogress (Photo credit: WiseWellWoman)

If I was to lose all of my material possessions today, there would be 3 things that I would try my best to hold on to.  2011 and 2012 have taught me the importance of having a vision, plan or goal, and a journal to write it all down.

Vision:  A vision forces you to be in tune with who you are and what you were created to be.  A vision puts the focus on the outcome and not the current circumstances.  It allows you to push through the most difficult times, knowing that it won’t be like this always.  A vision keeps you up late at night and gives life to your purpose.

Plan or Goal:  Your plan or goal(s) become the very blueprint to navigating through your vision.   While the vision keeps you focused on the end result, your plans and goals tell you that there is still some work to be done.  You begin to see what you can do and what you may need assistance with completing.  Your weaknesses and strengths may be revealed but instead of being discouraged you may just add a new goal to the list.

Journal:  “And the Lord answered me, and said, Write the vision, and engrave it so plainly upon tablets that everyone who passes may [be able to ] read [it easily and quickly] as he hastens by.” Habakkuk 2:2  Yes, you need something to write all down in.  When you begin to write things down, rewrite them and further explain them it makes it easier for people to understand and even assist with bringing the vision to past.  You have to understand, know and believe in whatever it is that you are working towards.  In 2011, I wrote that I wanted to create my own t-shirt line.  I didn’t know how I was going to do it and how soon it would all take place but the more I wrote about it, the more things were revealed.  I’ve been spending the last few weeks reflecting on journal entries.  Some of the things taking place in my life right now, were a mere journal entry a year ago.

I promise you, if you can hold onto these three things you will begin to see things happen.  On Dec. 8th, Mission Possible, a vision board event that I wrote in my journal a year ago will finally take place.  Daja Robinson of No Boiz Allowed and I are excited and grateful for all those who have helped to make this possible.  FireHouse Subs for providing lunch for our guest.  Zari Banks for her countless donations to Mother 2 Mother down throughout the year, Kanina Johnson for gifting a copy of her book, Walk In Your Power and many more.  If you are in the Las Vegas area, join us.  You do not want to miss this event!