Wellness Wednesday: Seeking Happiness In The Shadows of Fibromyalgia

Fibromyalgia Awareness

Fibromyalgia Awareness (Photo credit: Kindreds Page)

I am so happy to be back with a new post for Wellness Wednesday and on such a great topic.  Though I do not suffer from Fibromyalgia, I was diagnosed with the Epstein Barr Syndrome 8 years ago.  It too is a disesase that is hard to explain to family and friends.  It causes chronic fatigue and at times a lot of pain.  I have to often take breaks from my writing and other things I enjoy doing when my body is telling me to rest in order to prevent a pain spell from coming on.  Janiera Eldridge shares with us today some helpful tips for dealing with Fibromyalgia as well as informing family and friends.

As I go into my 3rd year of dealing with Fibromyalgia it still amazes me when people ask, “What is that?” It’s a disorder with physical and mental symptoms that affect nearly 8 million people and it is still a hush, hush topic.  Fibromyalgia is a syndrome that can be developed from a viral infection or trauma. It leads to widespread muscle pain that causes the sufferer to experience muscle ache, extended fatigue, and irritable bowel syndrome. Dealing with all of these symptoms can wreak havoc on one’s mental state causing loneliness, isolation and ultimately leading to depression.

I can’t be shy and say I haven’t experienced all of this and more during my struggles with Fibromyalgia. It can take years for people to be diagnosed since it is a syndrome people often don’t know a lot about. However, when one does get a diagnoses there are things you can do to keep your mental state as strong as possible. Keeping a strong mental state can help a sufferer with pain management and deal with the debilitating effects of constant fatigue.

One of the most important steps to take when first diagnosed with Fibromyalgia is to sit down with your family and friends and explain to them what this syndrome is.   It breaks my heart every time I hear someone say that their love ones think their lazy or just making it up. Part of this problem is lack of empathy; the other half is people not being educated on the mental effects Fibromyalgia can have on their love one. Explain to your family that missing a family day at the park is not because you don’t care to be with them but because the pain would be overwhelming and they may not be too happy around you either.  Let them know that it is hard enough not being able to do the things you used to do so any love and support they show you is great appreciated. Make clear that when you can do, you will!

Do something every day for you! Just keeping up with everyday life can feel like you’re in a rat race….of pain. I’ve learned to take at least 30 minutes a day to do something for me. Whether it was watch a favorite TV show, read a book or take a long hot shower. It would come in handy at the end of the day and at times help me to sleep better at night. It’s so important to help clear your mind and raise your positive, spiritual energy when you’re fighting against Fibro.

Last but certainly not least, live as healthy a lifestyle as possible. One of the hardest things to do with Fibro is to workout. However, it can really help to do minor exercising that can be as simple as walking! Talk with your doctor about workouts that can help to eliminate some stiffness and lessen your pain. Eating well is also extremely important. Drinking plenty of water is important. Leaving out caffeine, sugar and gluten can help to decrease fibro fog (problems in your memory caused by fatigue) and increase your positive emotions!  I find on days where I’m able to drink a lot of ice cold water my muscles don’t ache quite as much.

There is no way to cure Fibromyalgia and it is a reality that those who suffer from it are at a much higher risk of depression. If you think you’re depressed then please, talk to someone, preferably a professional. They can help step out from under the Fibro shadows and cope with your new life. Every life is precious and you still have yours to live to the fullest.

9016_1048197421837_1732740364_91005_7263899_nAbout the author:  Janiera enjoys feeding her book addiction when she not writing. Writing is therapeutic to her during her struggles with Fibromyalgia. Being unable to work a normal 9-5 is what encouraged her to write full time. She is also a book blogger at Beauty and Books where she mixes being a book nerd with keeping things chic. When not reading or writing she is freelance writing in the entertainment industry.When trying to relax she likes a huge yard sale on a Saturday morning, rainy days to read by and nacho cheese is her kryptonite. Soul Sisters is her debut novel and her books can be found on Amazon.com.
Feel free to visit her book blog where she loves reviewing books and doing author interview at Books & Beauty- http://janieraeldridge.blogspot.com. She loves feedback and welcomes any questions or comments to her email: prettyhaydengurl@yahoo.com and FB Page: http://www.facebook.com/authorjanieraeldridge

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Don’t Quit (Pt. 2)

A week ago I wrote the first Don’t Quit post. Those very words had been playing over and over in my head. Usually when that happens, I have to do something with what I’m hearing or seeing or it will persist. So as I often do, I wrote about it. I wanted to hopefully inspire someone even though at the time I was feeling rather uninspired.

The month of January had taken me on an emotional roller coaster. I applied to countless jobs only to get one call back and an interview. A few days after that interview a dear friend of mine passed away unexpectedly. I began to doubt and second guess everything I was doing and even whether or not I should remain in Las Vegas, NV. I’ve gone through a lot in the 5 and a half years that I’ve been here.

After hiding under my covers for almost a week grieving, I was notified that I did not get the position. Which was probably best given my emotional state. The entire month of February, I assisted my dear friend’s 25 year-old daughter with going through the necessary process of gaining legal guardianship of her younger siblings. I also began planning my departure from Las Vegas.  Yes, I was prepared to throw in the towel and head back to California to be around my family.

The Queen Maker BoutiqueThe last week of February is when things began changing. I wrote the don’t quit post and immediately something shifted. I was contacted by two different individuals that were interested in purchasing “My Scars” tees in bulk. One being Domonique “Pastor D” Scott from TLC’s The Sisterhood and the other a friend in North Carolina. The simple words “Don’t Quit” took on a greater meaning in my life. I now had a reason to fight for everything that I’ve worked hard for in this past year.

And if that wasn’t enough, I received an email last week from the one job that I had interviewed with that had decided to go with another candidate. I was asked if I was still looking for a position. Of course my response was yes. We scheduled a time for me to go in to meet with them again. Well I am now the Creative Attaché for a National Business Development Company, delayed but not denied.

God knew that with everything that had transpired in January that I would not be able to take on a job at that time. But He also saw all my other needs and provided for each one of them, financially, physically and spiritually. You may not see a way out of your present situation. You may feel like every door and opportunity has been blocked but don’t quit. God is faithful and His timing is always perfect.

If you have been following my blog for a while, then you also know that my background is in Psychology. I did not go to school for Journalism, PR or anything relative to that field. I have just been using the gift(s) that God gave me. Last year, I was given a position with a local newspaper as a Staff Writer. Now, as a Creative Attaché, I will be utilizing those same gifts that I have worked hard to develop for the past few years to fulfill the job. And RN Brand Tees will be sold in 3 different States and will make their debut in the UK in two weeks!!! Your gifts will make room if you Don’t Quit!!!  Many of us quit just before the  point of a breakthrough but hold on and hold fast.

“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.”

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Don’t Quit

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If you have been visiting my site and reading my post for a while, I am sure you are probably wondering what happened to all of the messages of inspiration and hope.  I have added quite a few new features which will remain, but the fact of the matter is, even the one who inspires needs to be inspired.  The other day, it was as if I could here the words “Don’t Quit” just as audible in my ears as if someone was speaking to me.

Have you ever felt like you were giving something your all and it wasn’t giving you anything in return?  These past few months have been some of the hardest.  However, each night before I go to sleep, I pray and thank God for keeping a roof over my head, clothes on my back and food to eat.  I wake up some mornings wanting to quit and something whispers and says, “Don’t Quit”.  And I am just crazy enough to keep listening.

You see, quitting is easy.  The obstacles, the disappointments and failed plans are always there waiting to get the best of you.  But determination tells you to push through all that, fight for that one yes and by all means “Don’t Quit”.  Those obstacles are there to teach you and the failed plans are for your protection.

If I had gotten everything that I wanted or if everything had gone my way, I wouldn’t be living out the purpose for my life.  Purpose is the reason I can’t quit.  It keeps me up at night and wakes me up in the morning.  It is the reason why I live and breath.  I am fulfilled merely by living out my life’s purpose.

So here is what I want you to do.  I want you to start March off with a clean slate.  February is behind you and you can’t go back.  It’s a new month, which should bring new goals, new plans and new opportunities that will help push you one step closer.  I am determined to see this vision through and fulfill my purpose and you should be too.  Don’t quit!

“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.”

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Isaac Carree: Clean This House

“Clean this house, from the inside out.  Restore me, take away my impurities.”  I recently heard “Clean This House” by Isaac Carree, a single that is Clean this houseexpected to be on his album that is to be released summer of 2013.   At the start of the song, I thought to myself wow, R. Kelly is doing gospel but I soon realized that though the sound was quite similar it was none other than Isaac Carree.  This song is sung as a heartfelt prayer.  I connected instantly with the lyrics.  I know I’ve been in that place where I needed God to do a complete work on my heart, mind and soul.  I love how some music has a way of communicating the prayer that is in our heart.  It has been a little over a week since the single was released and it is definitely creating a buzz.  You can download the single now on iTunes.  I would love to hear what you think of the single.

Since the release of the single, Isaac Carree has been mentioned in a not so good light.  I can only pray that whatever the situation may be that restoration and forgiveness can take place between all parties involved.  We really have to hold one another up in prayer.  It doesn’t matter the platform on which we serve and minister to God’s people, we are all in need of prayer and not free from making mistakes.  However, the transgressions of man should never be used as a source of entertainment or news but let a lesson be learned.  We all have to give an account in the end.

2012 In Review: Whatever You Do, Don’t Stop Writing

English: An aerial view of Mount Everest.

English: An aerial view of Mount Everest. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

2012 has been a good year.  I challenged myself in my writing in more ways then one.  New features were added and as a result my audience grew.  I thank each one of you for reading, commenting and sharing my written thoughts.  In 2013, I can only hope to bring you so much more.  So get ready for more author interviews, celebrity features minus the drama, the newest Wellness Wednesdays addition and RN Series will continue to provide blogging and branding tips.   Take a peek at some of the popular post for 2012 and if you haven’t already read them, I suggest you get caught up.  What are some of your writing plans and goals for the New Year? Leave a comment and  I’ll see you in the New Year!!!

“Whatever you do, don’t stop writing.” ~ Rhachelle Nicol’

Here’s an excerpt:

600 people reached the top of Mt. Everest in 2012. This blog got about 5,200 views in 2012. If every person who reached the top of Mt. Everest viewed this blog, it would have taken 9 years to get that many views.

Click here to see the complete report.

Merry Christmas

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Christmas tree (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

Wow another Christmas is here!!!  The smell of Christmas trees, the sight of dancing lights, the cold winter nights, it’s beginning to feel a lot like Christmas.  It seems like it comes faster every year and it takes me a while to get into the Christmas spirit.  These past couple of days have been spent snuggled up with my children on the couch playing video games.  Everyday they have pleaded to open a gift  but I have managed not to give in.  Watching their excitement and anticipation build is priceless.

 

I am just thankful that we once again received a Christmas miracle.  This year came with many challenges.  But those challenges revealed what was in me.  I was crushed and pressed in more ways than one.  The pressure pushed me to tap into so many gifts that I did not realize I had been given and even feared using.  But they have been unwrapped and I am not wrapping them back up.   So while my children enjoy their toys on Christmas day, I will be celebrating and enjoying the greatest gift ever, purpose.

 

What gift are you hoping for this Christmas?

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Wellness Wednesdays

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Well (Photo credit: echiner1)

Wellness Wednesdays will be a new weekly addition.  Wellness Wednesdays will focus on various mental health issues, healthy ways to deal with stress, change and transitions and also where to seek help or advice if you suffer from a mental illness. Going into the New Year, we don’t want to just appear to be mentally and physically healthy but we should desire to live a healthy life daily.

We have witnessed some recent tragedies in the news.  One thing that was common amongst all the incidents was that there were prior indications that something was wrong.  We have to make sure that we are present and not just in our own lives but also in the lives of our loved ones.  It is okay to slow down, take a break and regroup.  It is also okay to seek professional help if needed.  And it is definitely okay to discuss your concerns of a loved one’s well-being with them.  If you notice something out of the ordinary, ask questions and give support, don’t shut them out.

I often discuss the topics no one wants to talk about, suicide, domestic violence, etc.  I chose Wellness Wednesday because one of my favorite parables in the Bible is the Woman at the Well.  She went to the well seeking more of something; she had reached her end.  When you look at her water bucket as a symbol of her life, she was empty.  She was in search of something and had been for quite a while.  Her bucket had been filled with men but she still was incomplete and empty until that day while on her journey Jesus met her at the well.  So when you visit and read these post, I want you to leave with something that is spiritually uplifting, physically uplifting and mentally renewing.  I also want to make sure that the Wellness Wednesday’s posts are easy to find and are informative.  It will be added to the navigation bar and each time a new topic is discussed it will be made available in the drop down.  I would also like my readers to get involved.  You can write about ways in which you cope, a mental illness you’ve witnessed or have lived with.  Leave your post in the comments so that we can link up.

As previously mentioned, Mother 2 Mother is partnering with Touching Heart for the Inaugural Community and Family Health Fair on May 18, 2013.  The goal of the health fair is to provide information about community resources and services available.  The health of our communities is dependent on the health of our families and each individual that makes up the family.  In 2013, my goal is to start a yoga class.  Yoga is a great way to relieve stress and get into shape.

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Mental Health Awareness: What Will It Take?

logo-medSome of the recent incidents that have occurred have pushed people to discuss Mental Health. It is sad that 26 lives had to be taken in order for the discussion to even begin. Last week, innocent students and teachers. A few weeks ago, a baby was left without a mother or father as a result of a murder suicide. But we have to move past the discussions and get to the action. Mental Health is becoming a more challenging topic to discuss because so many do not understand it or the impact on the individual that suffers from it.  The media has thrown the term around when its convenient to minimize the heinous acts being committed.  As a result, we have become insensitive to those who suffer from mental illnesses and even continue to ignore the signs when it is at our own front door.

Mental Health is nothing foreign to me. I was surrounded by it from birth up until now. As a child, my parents cared for adult mental health and developmentally disabled clients. I even went on to attend college and major in Clinical Psychology. I volunteered in special education classrooms, adult mental health facilities and even went on to work with severely emotionally disturbed adolescents. Working in that environment and with these various populations, it made me sensitive to the needs of others. It wasn’t until recently that I even discovered that my mother suffers from bipolar disorder. When I look back over some of my childhood experiences, I can put the pieces together but it doesn’t make it any easier to accept or deal with. Now as an adult and mother, I face the challenge of working through mental health issues with my own son.

When he was younger, I thought he was just your average spoiled child. When he didn’t get his way, he would fall out. I would ignore it and not give in to whatever he wanted. But as time went on, I realized that at 6 and 7 falling out was not age appropriate behavior any longer. Did I want to seek help? Yes, but for some reason it seems easier to try to cope and deal with it on your own than to seek help. But in all honestly, it is even more difficult to deal with it alone. Seeking mental health assistance for a family member is just as difficult as having the formal discussions. We first blame ourselves. Could I as a parent have done something different? I should have known something was wrong. These are the questions and thoughts that run through my head on a daily basis.

As individuals, we experience so much in our day to day lives. The stress of supporting ourselves and a family, paying bills, school, unemployment, relationships, job layoffs, the loss of loved ones and more. All of these events have an effect on one’s mental health.  It is important that we find healthy ways to cope and reach out to others in times of need.  We can get so stuck in our daily routines that we forget to take out the time to make sure we are okay, not just physically but mentally.  Certain mental health issues can show up during any point of life. For example, someone suffering from a nervous breakdown. They are not born that way but they experience something during life that makes it difficult to cope or transition.

I must be honest, it is a difficult field to work in. At one point while in college, I began to feel powerless. I felt like I was only there to help maintain life as it was for those that I served. I would provide medications and make sure they were doing okay but that was it.  Overtime some even become insensitive and remove the humanity from the people they serve.  I have also witnessed the numerous cutbacks associated to providing care to those who suffer from mental illness.  While my experience could have turned me away, they actually pushed me then and now to want to do more.

Guns do not kill people, people kill people with guns.  For the past two year, it has been my desire to host an event in the Las Vegas, NV area during the month of May.  A month ago, I was asked to partner with another organization.  We decided that we would hold a health fair.   May just so happens to be Mental Health Awareness Month.  So May 18, 2013, Mother 2 Mother and Touching Heart will partner for the Inaugural Community and Family Health Fair.  Mental Health is just as important as physical health and we must do our best to maintain both.   More details will soon follow and look forward to Mental Health Mondays which will be a feature on Touching Heart and Wellness Wednesdays here and on Mother 2 Mother.  If you would be interested in being a guest blogger for Mental Health Mondays or Wellness Wednesdays please leave a comment.

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Book Review: Walk In Your Power

Walk In Your Power BookKanina Johnson did an excellent job breaking down the Law of Attraction along with 11 other universal laws.  Walk In Your Power was a quick and easy read but it was full of a wealth of wisdom and knowledge.  It is not often that I will do a book review.  I usually stick to author interviews or guest post features.  After reading Walk In Your Power, I knew that I had to write a review.  Kanina Johnson begins the book sharing some of her personal story and why she desired to seek out the knowledge and wisdom that she shares.  I connected with the author early on from her personal story.  Johnson wrote the book in a way that was so easy to understand and apply the tools.

This book taught me so much about the scriptures that I meditate on, the promises that I know God has spoken into my life and how to truly welcome those promises into my life.  For a lot of believers, I have noticed it is hard for them to embrace and attempt to understand the Law of Attraction.  For some, they feel that the belief in the Law of Attraction is contrary to believing in God.  Walk In Your Power does not add or subtract from who God is.   While breaking down the Law of Attraction, Walk In Your Power gives more incite into the scriptures that we have been taught but so many lack true understanding.

Walk In Your Power covers the Law of Attraction and 11 other Universal Laws that operate in our lives, whether we are aware of them or not.

1. Law of Thinking: “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”  Proverbs 23:7

2. Law of Forgiveness: “Forgive and you shall be forgiven.” Luke 6:37

These are just a couple of the laws that were mentioned.  I made so many notes and I am sure I will be reading this book again.  One scripture that comes to mind is Philippians 4:7, “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”  Focus on those things that you desire in your life and more of it will be added.  When we choose to honor God with our lives our thoughts should align.

Walk In Your Power closes with a discussion on vision and purpose.  One quote that stood out to me was, “You will not see the second step until you have taken the first”.  Start moving forward in the vision that God has laid out for you.  Trust that He will order each step if your trust Him with the first.  Get your copy of Walk In Your Power. You can also connect with Kanina Johnson on Facebook.

About the Author

Kanina Johnson, a licensed Bob Proctor Life Success Consultant, wrote Walk in Your Power to reveal life secrets and universal laws that she has seen at work in her own life and is eager to share with others. She has devoted her life to helping others manifest their personal potential.

 

Year End: Going Out With A Bang

I couldn’t have asked for a better way to end one week and start another. On this past Saturday, I was so excited to finally host Mission Possible, a vision board workshop I had envisioned over a year ago. It was a great success and each participant was full of so much energy. They were all so attentive and ready to take in all that was being shared.

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I always start off by sharing a portion of my personal story. Almost 3 years ago, I found myself out of a job and not knowing what my next move would be. Single mother of 5 with no source of income, in a different State from my family and support system. When I first moved to NV, I could feel an overwhelming sense of need. When I say need, I mean services, hope, direction and more. I started writing a program plan then to provide a continuum of services within the community from adolescence on through adulthood. That very plan sat dormant for two years. But during the first two years here, I was hired by the County to work as a case manager. I was basically providing the services that I had written about. However, I also got an inside view of what was really lacking in the State that I was now residing in. It was as if God had provided a means to get on the job training for the work He was preparing me to do.

So fast forward, after losing my job, I had to shake off the frustration and disappointment of losing it and realize that God had even greater plans. I remember sitting in my livingroom one day and I was reminded of the business plan that I had once written. In that moment, Mother 2 Mother was born. I always get excited when I share that story. Mission Possible is not just an event but a true life testimony. If you have visited my site before, then you also know that during this time I began writing my book.

“Need nothing, desire everything.”

I began writing my book on my blackberry. At the time, I didn’t have a computer but I made use of what I had. I downloaded every app under the sun that I thought I would need. I explained to the group that when we start feeling as though we “need” something what we are actually lacking is creativity. I got creative. I even started my blog on my blackberry. When I needed to spruce up my blog, I went to the library. I was eventually able to purchase my computer. But I didn’t let what would have appeared to be an obstacle stand in my way.

“Delight yourself in Him and He will give you the desires of your heart.”

The Law of Attraction may not be for everyone.  But before I was introduced to the Law of Attraction, I read the book of Genesis.  Abraham was a man of faith.  He believe that God would deliver just what He had promised.  He believed it so, that he trusted that if God didn’t do it in his lifetime then his children would be blessed.  And if his children didn’t receive it that their children would be blessed.  Yes, I went there.  Abraham, Isaac and Jacob were men of faith and the faith they had is still here today.  Tap into that faith and get started.

There is no doubt in my mind that everyone left motivated and inspired to begin moving forward with their dreams and goals.

Then on Sunday, I celebrated my 5 year old’s birthday. We’ve added two new members to the family, Nemo and Plex. Let’s just hope mommy can keep them alive.   We ended the birthday evening with a tiramisu cake at the request of the birthday boy.

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How was your weekend? Are you ready for the great week ahead of you?

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