5 Tips to Assist You Through Your Transition

Transitions through metamorphisisI recently asked a question about transitioning and to my surprise most of the responses received were not action items.  The responses ranged from providing Bible scriptures to prayer and meditation which led me to believe that many of us do not know how to handle transition.  The question was: “How do you handle or navigate through periods/seasons of transition? What piece of advice would you give someone transitioning?”

The first response was actually a favorite scripture of mine: “And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” Galatians 6:9.  While I love the verse and quote it often, someone that is going through a season of transition would likely ask as a rebuttal, “How do I not grow weary?” So instead of quoting the scripture, I would suggest that you remember your “Why?”  Seasons of transition are not meant to derail us but instead better align us with fulfilling our purpose.  I spend time reading old journals and notes that I may have written.  I often come across goals that I may have forgotten that I had but at that moment they help me understand the place that I am in.  You would not be in a place of transition if you were not already prepared and equipped to handle it.

Which leads me to the next response: “Sit and grow.  It doesn’t feel good but it is for our good.”  Typically growth takes place during the season before transition occurs.  I agree that it doesn’t feel good.  I often refer to the burdens and aches of that season as growing pains.  However, periods of transition are not seasons of growth but however application.  So having a clear understanding of the lessons you have learned in each season and how to apply it during your transition is imperative.

If you don’t know how to apply what you have learned during your season of growth the next response is for you.  “Trust God!! Let your prayer be Lord I do not know what you are doing, or how you are going to do it but I am going to trust you.  Easier said than done but it’s real we definitely have to put all our trust in God while he transitions us to the next chapter of our lives. Often times it is a very scary process and a lonely road.” Trust is key during seasons of transition, trust in God and our instinct.  That still small voice will give us the instructions that we need as we are transitioning but we have to be able to trust it and ourselves to move forward.  It can definitely be lonely because sometimes transition will put us on a journey all by ourselves.  But being alone will also limit the amount of voices you are hearing and listening to allowing you to be clear and sure of God’s voice.

Now the next response probably should have been at the top of the list but I am rolling them out in the order they were given. “For me, during periods/season of transition I have learned to be still and listen so that I can quiet the noise in my brain and around so I can truly connect with the Most High. Often times we pray and ask so much of our heavenly father when the answer is right in front of us. It is equally important for me to meditate each and every morning for 20 minutes.”  While prayer allows us to communicate with God, meditation requires that we listen to God.  Set aside some time during your day to meditate; create an area or space in your home that is just for you that you.

Lastly, the final response that came in was, “Run!!!! Lol! Just kidding.  Stand and be careful of your alliances“.  You have to understand that when you have entered a season of transition everyone can’t go with you.  Some will walk away on their own, others will attempt to stick around for the wrong reasons and others you will have to send on their way.  Don’t try to hold on to those that are letting go and let go of those who are holding on for the wrong reasons.

You know it’s funny that I asked this question while I myself am experiencing a season of transition.  I realized that while writing that I already knew the answer to my own question.  Funny thing is I learned it all during my season of growth.  I am thankful for the grace that allows me to transition from season to season. What tips would you give to someone transitioning?

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Don’t Quit


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If you have been visiting my site and reading my post for a while, I am sure you are probably wondering what happened to all of the messages of inspiration and hope.  I have added quite a few new features which will remain, but the fact of the matter is, even the one who inspires needs to be inspired.  The other day, it was as if I could here the words “Don’t Quit” just as audible in my ears as if someone was speaking to me.

Have you ever felt like you were giving something your all and it wasn’t giving you anything in return?  These past few months have been some of the hardest.  However, each night before I go to sleep, I pray and thank God for keeping a roof over my head, clothes on my back and food to eat.  I wake up some mornings wanting to quit and something whispers and says, “Don’t Quit”.  And I am just crazy enough to keep listening.

You see, quitting is easy.  The obstacles, the disappointments and failed plans are always there waiting to get the best of you.  But determination tells you to push through all that, fight for that one yes and by all means “Don’t Quit”.  Those obstacles are there to teach you and the failed plans are for your protection.

If I had gotten everything that I wanted or if everything had gone my way, I wouldn’t be living out the purpose for my life.  Purpose is the reason I can’t quit.  It keeps me up at night and wakes me up in the morning.  It is the reason why I live and breath.  I am fulfilled merely by living out my life’s purpose.

So here is what I want you to do.  I want you to start March off with a clean slate.  February is behind you and you can’t go back.  It’s a new month, which should bring new goals, new plans and new opportunities that will help push you one step closer.  I am determined to see this vision through and fulfill my purpose and you should be too.  Don’t quit!

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Becoming Me

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 We start off being mere leaves on a branch, but as we began to have our own families we become a branch on a tree.  Whenever you see leaves and new branches forming, it is a sign of growth.

“Tree height and branch lengthening begins with a bud. While nature provides a seed all it needs to survive, she provides great opposition to survival.”  A seed competes with its neighbors for nutrients, sunlight, water, food and space to grow.  Some seeds may even become a source of food.  Whatever purpose they end up fulfilling, they are needed.  But the seed that can withstand the
competition within its natural environment, grows into the tree that produces the fruit, leaves providing shade and wood for building.

Just like the seasons bring about changes in the appearance and growth of a tree, so do the seasons in our lives.  Trees shed leaves in order to sustain life, holding on could create issues if the proper nutrients is not available.  The same is true in our lives.  Pruning, clipping and shedding those things of old should not be seen as a negative.  Branches that have been clipped and pruned can grow on their own if planted.  “I have planted, Apollos watered; but God gave the increase.” 1 Corinthians 3:6

With growth comes wisdom and knowledge, I can recognize what needs to be shed and I’m not as reluctant to let go.  I can’t “Become Me” if I refuse to sustain MY growth.

“Building relationships of accountability and trust with all roads leading to love.” RATL

Do You Really Know Me…

“Remember the former things of old: for I am God, and there is none else; I am God, and there is none like me, Declaring the end from the beginning, and from ancient times the things that are not yet done, saying, My counsel shall stand, and I will do all my pleasure:” Isaiah 46:9

As I am approaching a year now that I have been blogging; a year that I spent writing Sunday Mourning; a year spent developing Mother 2 Mother, I ask myself, do those that are following my blog, leaving comments, tweeting me or liking my facebook statuses, know me.

What you see is what you get, but how I arrived at this point, has definitely been a journey; a journey of pain, at times feelings of defeat and to say the least full of trials. You see that mother that some tweet about or are even bold enough to write about on your facebook statuses, “the welfare mama”, that’s been me. In a blink of an eye, I went from making $50k a year, to one-third of that. With the same bills to pay and children to feed. I was told that its a privilege to have a car, that I should consider moving from my residence to a lower income part of town, the whole nine. At times, I thought I would lose my mind, but I knew it was a greater purpose for all the pain. I had to actually walk through the sufferings of those that my heart yearns to serve. I had to understand the mindset, the power of someone telling you “you can’t” when you know you can. I had to live through it and it was only by the grace of God that my mind has been kept. We can all say what we would do, but I’ve shown you what can be done and what I will continue to do through faith.

Yesterday I was contacted to assist a mother who had just relocated to Las Vegas, NV and had been sleeping in her car at night. With no hesitation, I was on it, making phone calls, brainstorming what needed to be done. Then I thought about the scripture in the Bible of the woman who used her last to prepare a meal. If my last is giving up a bed in my home, then by all means I’m giving it. I have to be the change that I desire to see. My circumstances haven’t changed much from last year, but my faith has definitely increased. I know that there is a blessing with my name on it. Everything that God has placed on my heart, every vision, dream, project, program, etc. will come to pass.

I’m speaking for organizations that I never knew existed until now. I’m more focused on my relationship with God than I have ever been before “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” Matthew 6:33 I’m conducting interviews about “little old me”. The comments and the emails that I receive about this blog are amazing and to God be the Glory.

This journey began with me dealing with 3 areas in my life: (1) Strongholds; (2) Surrendering; (3) Transparency. I knew this day would come but I also knew that someone would need to hear/read this. You can make it, keep your head up, square your shoulders and keep going. God will keep you in perfect peace. He has never left me. My soul is richer than ever and I am making room for my blessings.

It is ironic that on tonight while on Dr Juanita Bynum’s 40 day consecration on the Threshing Floor, she spoke a word, FINAL. She spoke to get ready. I knew that this would be part of my testimony but I wasn’t prepared to share it until things had completely changed. But I know its on the way. “For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.” Romans 8:18

Day 6 – 3 Dont’s and a Do

The Blessed Test

“Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the Lord; and in his law doth he meditate day and night.” Psalm 1:1-2

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A Mother’s Love

As little girls, we fantasize about finding our Prince Charming, having the fairytale wedding, living happily ever after and experiencing the joys of childbirth and entering the world of motherhood. For some the blue print is clear and the steps are ordered. For others some steps are skipped, others prolonged and for a few motherhood ends up being more of a burden than a joy.

I’m entering a new season in my life, though I’ve been a mother for almost 10 years, there were and are so many things that I had not learned until now. I realize that the love my mother showed me was the only love she knew to give. However, I know its not the love I want to show towards my children. Love is patient, love is kind and those qualities can’t be bought. I’ve replaced the material items, with more quality time spent, instructions given and structure set.

I am mature enough now to realize that I do not have all the answers and will not do everything perfect the first time around. I became a mother, before I became a woman, yes I was an adult by definition, but I was immature in my understanding of life, love and family. So as I venture down a little further on my journey, I am going to share my experiences as a mother making changes. I’m breaking old habits and making new ones. They say it only takes 30 days, so for the next 30 days I am going to do a post a day.

What are some changes that you want to see? Or have you experienced any growing pains as a mother? Please share.

~Mother 2 Mother building relationships of accountability and trust with all roads leading to love.~

Nothing New Under the Son

History always has a way of repeating itself. Is it by chance or for a Divine Purpose? I am not one to stay up to speed on much of the news, politics, economy, etc. However, one thing I do pay a lot of attention to are the things that motivate others. I guess you could say, I am a “people watcher”.

It seems like “The American Dream” and the pursuit of obtaining that reality has been a consistent motivator for generations. We have fought to climb the ladder, killed for the sake of limiting someone’s dream and even sold each other when we couldn’t realize or fathom that we were all created out of the likeness and image of one greater power. Perhaps, “The American Dream” had become the religion that we all longed to become members of even though we had been given the right to “Religious Freedom”.

We took the backseat on issues, such as prayer in schools, the legalization of same-sex marriages and even the right for an innocent life to be taken, we called that Pro-choice. If we can understand that most of these changes actually transpired because of the fight of an individual that spread their message, as we were instructed to do, “Go ye therefore…”, then we can start to understand how we became indoctrinated and included on a roll sheet that we were never purposed to follow.

So why now has our economy crashed, unemployment levels on the rise, wars breaking out and an entire shift, that I feel, taken place? One word, in my mind, restoration. We are seeing how greed, self-centeredness, pride, arrogance and deceit can lead to the fall of any man. Even the prodigal son had to return back home, before he could be cleaned up and restored back into his rightful place.

Are you in position? Naturally, the family is going to be the necessary and fundamental aspect of the foundation that first needs to be restored. We went from one parent working homes, to two parent working homes and now we are lucky if either parent is working. Our villages have been ambushed and there is no longer any accountability. I am my brothers keeper. However, a family that does not submit to God, will soon fall victim to the religion of “The American Dream” and repeat the cycle that we are preparing to recover from. Who will take the lead in this transformation? It seems simple right, the Church. I have recoginized that I am the church, you are the church, WE ARE THE CHURCH. So what are we going to do? Influence the change that we were suppose to influence, through obedience, deligence, perserverance, faith, power and love. Be the change that God called you to be. He said if I be lifted up, I would draw all men unto me. Whatever thy hand findeth to do, do it.

I am ready for change. Restoration is here. The wealth of the world is laid up for the righteous. If Moses had been following after “The American Dream”, the children of Egypt would still be in bondage. Well, we have led and left an entire generation back into Egypt and in order to be delivered over into the land of milk and honey, we must pull them out one at a time. Yes, we are going to go up against Pharoah’s army(The government). You see because of the children of Egypts bondage, Pharoah’s government gained wealth in spite of the corruption. However, we can see right now there have been some plagues to hit. Now is the time to put on the whole armour and get prepared for battle. I am taking back what is rightfully mine.

Full Circle

Life has a way of teaching us lessons. The key is to learn them the first time and move on. Sometimes learning the lesson can be easier said than done, but going through the process shows us some of our greatest weaknesses and vunerabilities.

I never realized how much I feared failure, until I lost everything and was forced to try. It wasn’t that I couldn’t do what others had told me I couldn’t, but that I feared that even if I tried I would fail. So what did I do, I always threw in the towel before I had to look defeat in the face. I never realized how the opinions of others bothered and contolled me, until all my credentials, titles and name were on the line.

2010 taught me a lot. We speak about the pruning process that God takes us through, but when you don’t yield to instructions sometimes drastic measures have to be taken. He not only pruned me but he left me in a state to either bare new fruit or fall. Some of you wonder why I spend so much time writing, but when he pruned me he left me with only the gifts that he had given, that no man could ever take away. The title is now gone, no degree or credentials to fall back on and no family name to hide behind. It’s just me and God.

So where am I at now, back where he placed me over 5 years ago, left with a pen and paper in my hand pouring out my heart and soul. The Bible says, “out of the heart flow the issues of life”. Those things that once brought me so much shame now bear my testimony, the guilt that imprisoned me has now opened doors and I am free. Free to share, inspire, encourage, live and love, this is what coming full circle has done for me.

So on this perfect day(1/11/11), I celebrate not only my birthday but the birthing of purpose. I have always been a dreamer, but I have now realized the true power that lies within. I’m tapping into mine and I hope to encourage you to tap into yours. The change I have so longed to see is starting with me. Full circle, getting back to where I was always meant to be.