This year will make 8 years that I began signing my book with my quote and 7 years since it was transformed it into a t-shirt. I began showing my scars because it was easier to live a life of transparency than live in silence and shame. The more I shared my truth the more I was connected to others that were breaking their silence. We were embracing our scars and gaining strength to come out from the shadows of our pain.
January is recognized as Human Trafficking Awareness month. I must say that this month though we are only 10 days in has been very triggering in more ways than one. Last weekend, I watched the Surviving R. Kelly series on Lifetime. The Docuseries was put together well in my opinion and made it easy to understand how someone could be lured and manipulated in such ways. However, it still seems as though most of society is still very uniformed about emotional and sexual abuse.
The lack of awareness led to quite a bit of victim shaming. However, I also believe that some of the victim shaming may also be in part due to those that have not dealt with their own trauma. It is one thing to not understand but it is another to form an opinion about something you don’t understand. In those situations where understanding is lacking, I wish more people would seek the information and ask questions first. At the end of the day, no one willingly subjects themselves to any form of abuse. It is the gradual process of being abused, that renders someone as helpless and in some cases hopeless.
I can remember feeling like no one would ever understand what I was going through. It was then that I felt like suicide was easier than leaving and even attempted suicide. It took years to get to a place to be able to share my story. I refuse to allow anything or anyone silence me. Oprah said it best, “Find a way to tell your story. It will help heal you and others.” Are you ready to show your scars?
“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.”
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