Tina Campbell: “It’s Personal” Debut Solo Album Set To Release

Available online May 7th

Available online May 7th

Tina Campbell is gearing up to release her debut solo album “It’s Personal” and memoir “I Need A Day To Pray” on the same day. Tina Campbell, Grammy award winning gospel artist and WEtv Reality star of Mary Mary, is set to release her highly anticipated album and memoir May 7th.

If you have been watching this season of WEtv’s Mary Mary Reality show, you have heard a portion of Tina Campbell’s testimony of forgiveness after infidelity.  She also talks about while going through her process of healing how she began to journal and how the music began to be poured into her.  One of my favorite interviews that she did on the show is with WBLS. Call me bias because she is wearing a “My Scars” tee during the interview but her transparency is a blessing.  You can listen to the full WBLS interview.

“It’s Personal” will feature the current inspirational single “Destiny”.  “I’ve got a

Available May 7th

Available May 7th

destination in my view. The road may be bumpy getting there but I’m pressing through.  I will enjoy this journey no matter come what may. I’ll become better, and stronger and wiser every day. I’ve got a vision and a purpose, a divine destiny.  It may not look like it right now but faith ain’t what I see.  It is the things I hope for believing that it will come and that no matter how long it takes. I know God’s will shall be done.”  I’ve been listening to this song since last year when I saw a video of her performing it live.

I know that I will be grabbing my copy of both “It’s Personal” and “I Need A Day To Pray”.  So keep your eye out for a review coming soon.  Tina Campbell the process of your healing is so familiar to me. “I show my scars so that others know they can heal”. I wrote, I prayed, I cried, I questioned but in the midst of it all He was giving me a vision for my purpose, Destiny. Though “It’s personal” we understand that our testimonies are not for us but to bring hope to a lost and dying world. Thank you for showing your scars to the world!

“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.”

Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

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As Seen On TV

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#WhenILeft Financial Abuse Followed

Financial abuse is present in many domestic violent relationships.  Financial abuse is often characterized by a victim having limited access to financial resources by not being allowed to work or being forced to work and hand over their wages.  My situation was a little different.  He would refuse to work whenever we got back together, losing his job almost overnight each time.  I didn’t have to hand over my paycheck, but everything went towards paying the bills.  He would even ask to borrow money knowing he had no means to pay it back.  I was left with nothing quite often for myself.  I remember when I finally made the decision that I had endured enough.  I had lost my job and we had been evicted from our apartment.  We had been leaving in a weekly motel.  I had found work but it was just enough to keep a roof over our head temporarily. He still wouldn’t look for work.  In fact, he would leave to go hang out as soon as I got home and stay gone until late at night.  I realized in my heart that whether I was with him or not, I was still doing everything on my own.

Post relationship he refused to provide any financial support, working off and on then quitting so I could not get child support.  Unfortunately sometimes the aftermath of leaving an abusive relationshp is what puts women back in an abusive situation.  I want to paint a realistic picture because some people still don’t understand #whyIstayed, why so many others have stayed and why some are still staying.

There were many nights that I went to sleep wondering how I would provide for our children.  The only solution that he would ever provide was that I send the children to him.  I couldn’t imagine living without my children.  But I also didn’t understand how a man that wasn’t working and refusing to pay child support could possibly provide for 5 children.  It was just another way to make me feel inadequate and as if I wasn’t doing enough.  I allowed it to get to me for a while.  But then I realized that I was doing the best that I could with what I had and I was continuously striving for more.  I wasn’t going to continue to allow him to beat me up emotionally or beat myself up.  It was just another way for him to try and maintain control.

The abuse didn’t stop because the relationship was over.  It didn’t even stop when I moved to another State.  It stopped when I no longer looked to him to provide something that he was not capable of, support.  He was not able to do anything that in his mind gave up any form of the control he wanted or thought he had.  Has it been easy providing for my children alone? No. But the peace that I have found makes it all worth it.  I know that the journey is not easy and at times you may even feel discouraged but don’t give up.

I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

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You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

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What Happens In Vegas Shouldn’t Stay In Vegas

7 years ago, I arrived in Las Vegas, NV with a suitcase, my 3 oldest children and one on the way. I was broken, feeling hopeless and at the point of giving up. I was trying to move away from all of my emotional baggage but I soon discovered it had joined me on my journey. In those 7 years, I dealt with homelessness, being terminated from not one job but two, lights being turned off, losing my car and the list goes on. However, in the midst of all the pain, heartache, shame and loss, I found and established a relationship with God.

I didn’t realize when I boarded on that bus that I was embarking on not just a physical journey but a spiritual journey. I was away from everything and everyone that was familiar; it was just my children and I. I could no longer point the finger and make someone else responsible for the pain that I was experiencing. I can remember one day just crying out to God. I said “Lord show me my heart, show me those things that are causing me to continue to self-inflict pain”. Be careful what you ask for because you just might get it. God began to show me the condition of my heart. Not only did He show me the condition of my heart but He began to teach and show me His truths and through the teaching my heart began to heal.

I felt like a new creature. The weights were being lifted, my peace was being restored and I finally had joy within my heart. But I had no idea that God was preparing me for something greater than me. My story of transformation became Sunday Mourning which some of you may be familiar with but it didn’t stop there. I began signing each copy of Sunday Mourning with “I show my scars so that others know they can heal”. Each time I signed those words it was like an affirmation that God was going to do more with my pain than I ever could by holding on to it. Those words soon became a shirt and have connected me with so many men and women across the Country that are willing to allow God to use their scars to encourage and minister to someone else.

Today I can say, I’m leaving Las Vegas lighter than ever and no emotional baggage will be following me on this next leg. I’ve learned so much about myself, allowed God to heal the wounds that were threatening my life and purpose and now I’m freer than ever to “Show My Scars”. I am excited about what God has in store for me. You never know where God is going to have me “Showing My Scars”.

I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

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Be A Fab U: Embrace Your Scars, Flaws and All

A Fab U 2Each time I am given an opportunity to share my story, I am reminded why I show my scars.  Join me tomorrow, Tuesday, March 25th at 8:00 pm with host Eboni Nicole on A Fab U Radio.  We have all experienced something that may have left us with physical or emotional wounds.  “I show my scars so that others know they can heal.”  Your past doesn’t have to keep you from living the life that you deserve, Be A Fab U.  When I understood what I had gone through, I was able to take control of rewriting my future.  The journey to embracing my scars, flaws and all was not an easy feat but it has been worth it.  I am still growing, learning and healing daily.  Thank you for joining me along my journey and feel free to call in during the show.  I will be answering your questions.

“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

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Information: My Scars Chat

My Scars Chat(s) are a series of panel discussions surrounding sensitive topics that have either been swept under the carpet or not discussed enough. The panel(s) is/are made up of both professional men and women from various backgrounds and professions who are well informed on the topics and/or work in the field.

My Scars Panel

My Scars Chat was inspired by Rhachelle Nicol’s quote: “I show my scars so that others know they can heal”. The My Scars Chat platform was created to increase awareness and provide a healthy environment/setting for discussions. An environment in which attendees feel comfortable to share their experiences as well as receive tips and advice that can be applied to their life.

SCARS are those lessons that we learn in life that seem unbearable and come at a greater cost. But the scars let us know that we survived it and healing is possible.

Topics:

  • Domestic Violence – the impacts on families, children and the communities and the various types of domestic violence defined
  • Love – Understanding what love is and what love is not
  • Mental Health – seeking help and understanding
  • Bullying
  • Single Parenting
  • Self-Esteem – understanding one’s self-worth
  • More topics being added regularly

If you are interested in having a My Scars Chat hosted in your area, please complete the contact form with your information.

My Scars Chat discussion

 

Let me just say that this was a GREAT experience. I learned so much. I would love to help in any way I can. Great meeting some new influential people right here in Vegas.. (I thought didn’t exist). Make this a movement and a resource, reaching out to those whom are to afraid to take the first step. ~ Kee

I am so glad I took the time out to come & support this event. All I have to say is POWERFUL! Thank you for spreading awareness of domestic violence; there is a generation that must hear these life changing stories. ~ Kym

I had such a busy day today and was feeling under the weather but I pushed through and attended this event and was blessed! I encourage people daily, it’s who I am. Yet I was broken! I never really shared my story publicly until today and I thank you Author Rhachelle Nicol’ and Jess Flo along with the many other women and men who made this event possible and who shared their stories and knowledge with us today. Today I shared my story, cried publicly (lol) and was healed. From now on I will SHOW MY SCARS SO THAT OTHERS KNOW THEY CAN HEAL! Thank you again and God bless you all. ~Eboni

“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

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Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

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Domestic Violence Awareness: 4 Red Flags You Should Never Ignore

English: Colin Henderson's winning design will...

English: Colin Henderson’s winning design will be displayed on T-shirts and other items at this year’s Domestic Violence Awareness Rally, which is scheduled for Oct. 17. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Domestic violence affects 1 in 4 women.  Though we read the statistics and the stories, see the pictures and may even encounter the abuser, we often ignore the red flags.  Red flags are those signs or warnings that our intuition and/or gut tell us not to ignore.  However, sadly they are usually ignored.  Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women.  Statistics show that every 9 seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten.

Domestic can show up in a relationship in many different forms: physical, financial, emotional, verbal or sexual.  Most times the red flags show up in how a person communicates and even their past relationship history will tell a story.  I have come up with a list of (4) red flags you should never ignore.

Isolation:  He wants you all to himself.  In the early stages of dating, double dating or even hanging out with a large group has its benefits.  You can see how he or she interacts with your friends.  Also, your friends may see something in him or her that you don’t.  If he or she makes excuses about interacting with your friends/family or tries to keep you from interacting with them, an alarm should go off.  Domestic violence is defined as “a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.”  Recognize the pattern before it becomes a vicious cycle.

“He made every excuse in the book as to why he didn’t want to be around my friends or family.  Then when I made plans for just myself he would pick an argument so that I would cancel.  In the beginning, I was flattered that he wanted to spend so much time with me.  However, I soon realized it wasn’t that he wanted me around; he just didn’t want me around anyone else.”

Projection:  “A defense mechanism in which a person unconsciously rejects his or her own unacceptable attributes by ascribing them to objects or person in the outside world.”  Oftentimes, a partner will accuse the other for doing or engaging in activities that they are not engaging in.  For example, if you do not answer the phone when they call, they will accuse you of being with someone else or cheating.  In actuality, the person who is accusing or projecting is the one actually engaged in such activities.

Communication:  How a person communicates with their family, mother, sisters and friends can tell a lot about them.  If a man is disrespectful to his mother, sister or the mother of his children, he is going to be disrespectful to you.  If he uses vulgar language in casual conversation, it will only get worse in a disagreement or argument.

Is his communication honest?  have you allowed little white lies to go ignored?  If he can sell you on the lie, it will keep you from seeking out the truth.  You want the truth; the truth sets free.  You can not make an informed decision about a relationship without enough facts, so move on.  “I will never let a man hit me!” Well, truth be told some of us have been hit by his words and punched by his lies. Domestic violence is more than physical and the red flags will show up in how he/she communicates.”

Lack of Accountability:  You are not responsible for anyone’s behavior except your own.  “You made me do it.”  Is not holding oneself accountable.  The irony is that most domestic violent relationship are a result of someone’s need for power and control of another person and they lack control over themselves.

Take the necessary steps to get to know someone, pay attention to the red flags, make a decision and stick to it.  Domestic violence can take on many forms: physical, verbal, sexual, emotional and financial abuse.  Communication is key or the lack thereof.  Ask questions and if you don’t feel comfortable asking you should feel even less comfortable not knowing.  Make the decision to move on.  What are some red flags that you have witnessed and how did it impact your decision about the relationship?

“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

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Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

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#MyScars Chat

RN_FB_Header2“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.”  I signed a copy of my book with these words back in 2011.    Since then t-shirts have been designed and it has evolved into an entire movement. Now this October, I will host along with Black Girls Inspired, the very first live event in Las Vegas, NV.

My Scars Chat is a live panel discussion on the impact of domestic violence on families, children and the community; a conversation between men and women about emotional, verbal, financial, sexual and physical abuse.  Join as we explore effective prevention methods, the road to healing and using one’s scars to bring awareness.

SCARS are those lessons that we learn in life that seem unbearable and come at a greater cost.  But the scars let us know that we survived it and healing is possible.

The host, Rhachelle Nicol’, arrived in Las Vegas, NV 6 years ago with her 3 oldest children, one on the way and a suitcase.  She wanted a fresh start and to escape the hurt, pain and shame that had resulted from the choices she had made.  She soon realized that no matter how little baggage she physically carried, she was carrying so much more emotionally.  Now she is using her journey and showing her scars so that others can realize that healing from an emotional and abusive past is possible.

On October 19th from 2-5pm, 3 men and 3 women will come together on a panel to discuss the epidemic of domestic violence.  If you would like to participate and/or be a part of the panel please email rn@rhachellenicol.com.  The event will take place at The Pearson Community Center located at 1625 W Carey Ave, North Las Vegas, NV 89032.  I would love if you could help us get the word out.

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

https://www.facebook.com/ShowingOurScarsMovement

You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

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Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

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Le’Andria Johnson Showing Her Scars

Le'Andria Johnson

A week ago today, I boarded a flight headed to Atlanta, GA.  I did not know what to expect.  I actually hadn’t even taken any time to really think about what I was embarking on.  I was flying out to meet with thee Le’Andria Johnson.  Now if you know me, then you know I have been a fan/supporter since day 1.  Le’Andria Johnson was first introduced to us all on season 3 of BET’s Sunday Best.  She has since gone on to win a Grammy and two Stellar Awards.  So how would it happen that I would be going out to meet with her?  I still don’t have the answer to that but I will say it was nobody but God.

I was picked up from the airport by Robert Hatcher, Johnson’s road manager and it was like we had known each other for quite some time.  We grabbed a bite to eat from Waffle House (I need a waffle on this morning, lol).  He didn’t bother to let me know that we would be meeting with Le’Andria moments later.  We finished eating and drove over to IPC Ministries.  If you do not know, Le’Andria actually Pastor Le’Andria Johnson began a ministry a few months ago in Hapeville, GA.  We were meeting to discuss the expansion of IPC Ministries to Las Vegas, NV.  It was also during that initial meeting that Johnson would show her scars.  We discussed music, ministry and transparency.

My first question was how are you able to be so transparent and open about your life? Johnson’s response, “Being transparent is the key to someone’s locked door”.  Johnson went on to discuss life after Sunday’s Best and how she was still in a place of not surrendering her all to God.  “I did what I needed to do to stay sane and that’s operate in a church and still give God some of me.  On Sundays, that was my only grace period, my only way out.  That was my way of saying Lord forgive me for the week.  I’m coming to sing for you, shout for you and dance for you.  And I was doing it from a pure heart then.  But I didn’t realize the effect that it would have on me and the people around me.”

It was during that time that God began to deal with Le’Andria.  If you recall, Johnson began to share her testimony of being delivered from alcohol.  Soon after, she would let close friends and family know that she was expecting her 4th child out of wedlock.  It was suggested by some for her to have an abortion.  Her record label, Music World operated by Matthew Knowles,  told her it was career suicide to carry the baby.  Johnson was fully persuaded that she would not abort her baby but allow God to use the very thing that man tried to kill her with as a testimony.  “I did not kill to be killed” became one of Johnson’s slogans during that time.  If you recall my post titled Le’Andria Johnson: Sooner or Later, I could see then what God was doing through her and the pregnancy.  I then asked Johnson, “How were you able to stand and endure during those times?”  I knew it was nobody but God but her response was confirmation.  “He was my strength.  He said I’ll never leave you nor forsake you.  God I know that you forgave me and if you forgave me, you’re telling me to move on.  But I knew there were millions of Le’Andria’s in the world.”  I thank God that she was able to stand and that He was her strength.   “Those scars were for you to go through because you were going to be strong enough to tell someone else how to get out of it”, said Johnson.  Now that is what showing our scars is all about.

Johnson is currently working on her upcoming single and album and quite a few other projects.  She recently recorded a song with Reuben Studdard that is soon to be released and she can be heard on many other albums of some of your favorite gospel artist.  However, right now Johnson’s heart is in ministry.  She is reaching out to the unchurched or those that have given up on the church in unconventional ways.  If you are in the Las Vegas, NV area you can pick up a complete copy of the interview in The Answer Newspaper.  Also, if you are interested in finding out more about IPC Ministries or being a part of the Las Vegas location please send an email to rn @ rhachellenicol (dot) com.  Continue to keep Pastor Le’Andria Johnson in your prayers as she continues to impact lives and minister.   “We’re in the same boat with our messed up, imperfect selves but we have one thing in common, the tree of life, an all access pass to God.”

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

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You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!

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Why I Show My Scars

I show my scars
6 years ago, I arrived in Las Vegas, NV on the bus with my 3 oldest children, one on the way and a suitcase. I wanted to start over and escape the hurt, pain and shame that had come from the choices I had made. I soon realized that no matter how little baggage that I physically carried with me, I was carrying so much more emotionally. Having escaped a near fatal suicide attempt, I knew I wanted to live but I didn’t know how to release the pain so that I could even breathe. All I knew how to do was to keep going about with my life as if everything was okay.

I found employment within the first two weeks here. My children and I moved into our apartment but it was so hard to make it a home; I was broken. I didn’t know how to surrender all the baggage and issues that I carried with me. They had become so much a part of me, I didn’t know that I could release them and find a greater peace. Things went from good to better and then quickly to worse. My internal turmoil was having external impacts on my life. I lost everything; my career, car, home was all gone. But I had been in that very place before prior to my move. Why couldn’t I be free from all the pain?

I had tried everything to escape and get some relief. Even after being born and raised in the church, I didn’t truly understand how to surrender it over to God. “Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.” I Peter 5:7 I knew the scripture but I didn’t understand how to apply it to my life. I had been taught to keep everything inside. “What goes on in this house, stays in the house” is what laid the foundation for the prison that my soul was being held captive in. I prayed and I cried out to God like never before. I asked him to show me my heart and those things that were causing me to self-destruct.

It wasn’t until I was able to give it all over to Him that I was able to heal. I was able to trust Him completely with all of my issues, heartache and pain. He in turn gave me so much more. He gave me a new life in Him with purpose, vision and compassion for those who may still be suffering. “I show my scars so that others know they can heal.”

This journey has not been an easy one. If you recall my post titled “Don’t Quit“, I was on the verge of throwing in the towel but He whispered “don’t quit”. The blessings and doors that He has opened since have been more than I could have ever expected and they haven’t stopped. On this Wednesday, I fly out to Atlanta to meet one of my favorite gospel artist, Le’Andria Johnson, Sunday Best Season 3 and Grammy award winner. That was nobody but God. I hope that each time I share a portion of my testimony and show my scars, I can inspire just one to keep on holding on, don’t ever give up. God has so much in store for you. He has not and will not forget His promise concerning you. Join the I Show My Scars Challenge, someone needs to see your scars.

I love you and there is nothing you can do about it!

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Challenge: I Show My Scars…

I Show My Scars Reflection

A few days ago, I posed a challenge on my Facebook page:

I want to try something with you all this evening. “I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” God gave me this after I finished writing my book, Sunday Mourning. It was as if He was answering my question, “Why me?” now I want you to finish this sentence in your own words. “I show my scars…” leave it in the comments, then post it on your status, use the hashtag ‪#‎MyScars‬ then end with “Someone needs to see your scars…” 

The responses were amazing and inspiring:

“I show my scars so others know that they are worthy of love.” ~ Nicole

“I show my scars so others know there is beauty in pain and triumph in tribulation.” ~ Shonta

“I show my scars to let others know that we’re overcomers and through Gods power we have the ability to heal from all past hurts and pain.” ~ Sheila

“I show my scars so other people know they don’t have to suffer alone in silence. So they can see that all struggles and sacrifices simply help one grow, relate & represent those who haven’t yet found their voice. ” ~ Ciara

I spend a lot of time reflecting and it is in those moments that I can appreciate where I’ve been and how far I’ve come.  I didn’t allow my scars to dictate how far I could go but I let them serve as a reminder of how determined I am to fulfill my destiny.  Now I want to do something similar will my fellow bloggers.  I want you all to write a post and begin your post with “I show my scars…” and let your readers know why you show your scars.  At the very end of your post, include the words “Someone needs to see your scars…”  Let’s make this challenge spread like wildfire.  Someone is suffering in silence and your scars may be the very thing they need to see to know they can and will heal.  Leave your links in the comments.

Why do you show your scars?

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!

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