[MUST SEE] War Room: Prayer Changes Everything

“To win any battle you have to have the right strategy and resources because victories don’t come by accident.” ~ War Room

War room is a compelling faith drama that explores the power prayer can have on marriages, parenting, careers, friendships and every other area of life.  War Room opened nationwide in theaters on August 28th.

In the film, Tony and Elizabeth Jordan have it all – great jobs, a beautiful daughter and their dream house.  But appearance can be deceiving.  Tony and Elizabeth Jordan’s world is actually crumbling under the strain of a failing marriage.  While Tony basks in his professional success and flirts with temptation, Elizabeth resigns herself to increasing bitterness.  But their lives take an unexpected turn when Elizabeth meets her newest client, Miss Clara, and is challenged to establish a “war room” and a battle plan of prayer for her family.  As Elizabeth tries to fight for her family, Tony’s hidden struggles come to light.  Tony must decide if he will make amends to his family and prove Miss Clara’s wisdom that victories don’t come by accident.

War Room is a must see for everyone.  It will leave you inspired with a fresh outlook on how to address the daily struggles and issues you may be experiencing in your life and/or family.  You will cry, laugh, clap your hands and even murmur a few prayers of your own.  But the impact does not stop there, establish your own “War Room” and develop your own strategy.  As soon as I returned home from seeing War Room, I grabbed a journal and began writing down my own prayer request and scriptures that I can recite.  And everyone needs a Miss Clara.  I’m praying that God sends me a Miss Clara that can impart such Godly wisdom into my life so that I may do the same for another young woman.

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War Room, the highly anticipated filth film from Alex and Stephen Kendrick ( Fireproof, Courageous, Facing the Giants, Flywheel) will debut in theaters nationwide on August 28, 2015 from Sony Pictures Entertainment’s TriStar Pictures, distributor of Soul Surfer, Courageous and last summer’s faith-based sensation Heaven is For Real.

 

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“Frankie & Neffe”: Talk About Their New Season Premiering June 3rd

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“FRANKIE & NEFFE” picks up where “KESHIA COLE: ALL IN” left off, as viewers will get a deeper glimpse into the complex lives of Keyshia’s mother, Frankie, and 2 sisters, Neffe and Elite. While Neffe and Elite are determined to launch successful careers, they continue to struggle with Frankie, as her instability is a constant source of friction with her daughters. the family ties are inescapable, but Frankie, Neffe and Elite are also three individual women at different stages of life. Whether they enter laughing or come out swinging, these funny, raw, unforgettable women fascinate us and keep us rooting for their success.”

Join me this Monday, June 1st @ 8pm EST as I host an exclusive virtual press conference with the stars of BET’s “Frankie & Neffe” show for bloggers only. You could be one of those bloggers to join this mother-daughter duo on the line and have your questions answered as well as those of your faithful readers. If you are interested in participating, send an email to rn @ rhachellenicol (dot) com and include the following information:

1) Name
2) Name of your blog and a link
3) Top 3 questions you would like to ask Frankie and Neffe
*A recap of this virtual press conference should be on your site no later than Wed., June 3rd. If you are not serious about completing the recap on your site please do not respond. This virtual conference is for those who are serious about sharing the answers to their questions with their readers. Your article will be shared on multiple social media platforms for others readers to read. YOU MUST BE A BLOGGER AND HAVE A SITE.

The Life You Want: Oprah I Had An Aha Moment

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If you recall, last year I had the opportunity to attend Oprah Winfrey’s The Life You Want Weekend in San Jose, CA as press. Over the course of that weekend, the attendees were challenged to find one thing that they could do daily for the next year in order to live the life they want. I thought I would tackle this challenge by intentionally waking up each day and doing something that would push me closer to my goal; sending an email, returning a call, etc. But I soon realized that my efforts were not focused enough on one area/thing in my life that I wanted to change. I was seeing results but some days I was putting forth less effort and just going through the motions.

But I soon realized that even though I wasn’t clear on my approach I was still being guided in the right direction. Last year, I made up in my mind that I was relocating back to California. I planned to live with my sister for at least a year, work, save money and build my business. Well on a larger scale that was/is my one thing that I am doing daily. Daily I am making an effort to blend 3 families (a friend of mine accepted the challenge). We are three single mothers choosing to create our own village, support each others visions and build our businesses, together. Can you imagine 3 women ages 36-40 under one roof, raising a total of 8 children? It can get crazy at times but we always remember our “why?”

We attend church together, prepare meals together and we push one another to go after our dreams. “I am not my sister’s keeper. I am my sister.” My season of the “Ruth and Naomi” relationship. I am surrounded by those that not only give me a list of things I “should” do but take it further and say come with me and I will show. “And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God:” Ruth 1:16

I am so excited about this season of my life! And I can’t wait to share more with you about the challenges and victories of blending 3 families and building 3 businesses.

“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

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Domestic Violence: James Fortune Arrested For Striking His Wife With A Barstool

James FortuneOn October 23rd, it was reported that Grammy nominated gospel singer James Fortune was arrested for assault against a family member.  The details surrounding the situation were vague not letting on to who Fortune had assaulted.  Fortune was released the next day posting a $20,000 bond.  Since the news first broke more details are being reported and identifying the victim as Fortune’s wife.  He is being charged with aggravated assault with a deadly weapon.  The details are also stating that Fortune’s wife may have suffered from a broken or fractured leg or pelvis after bring struck with a barstool.  You can read more here

As a domestic violence advocate, I often say that domestic violence does not discriminate against one’s faith, gender, socioeconomic status, sexuality or age.  I am sure that quite a few people also wonder why I always have a Pastor on the My Scars Chat panel discussion.  I think it is very important for the faith community to be equipped in handling domestic violence and also connected to the domestic violence organizations in their community.  We can not turn a deaf ear or blind eye to those within the pews or in the pulpit because of the title they carry when someone’s life could be in danger.

I pray the James Fortune gets the help that he needs and that his family can also begin the healing process.  You never know how long this may have been going on but I pray for his wife that she finds strength and peace to carry on.  No one should ever be subjected to such treatment.  If you know someone that may be experiencing domestic violence, please do not hesitate to reach out and encourage them to seek the necessary help, prayer is always needed but a way of escape can save a life.

I want to share some of the lyrics of Fortune’s song Identity:

Sitting here alone thinking of you
I’m blown away
You never gave up on me
Time after time I let you down
So caught up and focused on me
My own desires get in the way
I should be finding my purpose in you
So I can be what you have for me

[Pre Chorus:]
I need you to search me oh God,
I want to be just like you
So that you can be seen when they see me

[Verse 2:]
You know my thoughts
You know my heart
Along the way I’ve made mistakes
But thank you for grace
Hiding my flaws so they can see you

[Chorus:]
Lord I want to change
Take it away whatever it is
That’s my desire
I want your heart

These words sound like the sentiments of Fortune’s prayer.  Sometimes God has to expose our hearts in order to heal them.

 

I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

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Almost Homeless

homelessI have been planning my departure from Las Vegas for what seems to be forever. My plan was to relocate during the summer before my children started back to school. It seemed like a doable plan. I had interviewed for a position back in June in California and they seemed to really like me. Everything seemed to be going fine. I had moved to the final hiring stage, submitting permission for them to request my background information, motor vehicle report and references. I was confident that the position was mine. I mean who digs into a person’s background without an intent to hire. I put in my two weeks notice. It was finally happening. I was finally moving back home. Then I made the call to follow up and make sure they had received what they needed. I was given excuses and to my dismay, they had offered someone else the job. What would I do now? I wasn’t going to ask for my old position back. So I relied on plan B. Just do it.

I went to California anyways. It was mid-July, which would give me plenty enough time to get situated and figure out the school my children would attend. I was already planning events out there so I might as well be there. But it wasn’t that easy. I was still locked into my lease in Las Vegas until October.  I was staying with my sister in California. So the minute an issue came up, I was like “well I have an apartment to go to”(I’m a professional runner, I run away from confrontations).   I didn’t want to be made to feel as though I was someone’s burden.  I get that often being the youngest of four.  So I packed up our bags and we returned to Las Vegas.  I enrolled my children in school and we went back to our normal routines, except for the fact that I didn’t have full time employment or full time income for that matter. The cost of planning the events was draining the makeshift budget I had created for the move and my savings were dwindling.

By the end of September, I had to give up my place and there was no way I was renewing my lease. I had thought about it but given the circumstances there was just no way for that to even happen.  Fortunately, my oldest sister (there’s a 14 year age difference so she is like my mother) that resides in Las Vegas allowed my children and I to move in with her. As crazy as it all seemed, it was actually forcing me to be clear as to what I wanted in order for God to do what needed to be done. I could no longer waiver in my decision to relocate.

Since my sister lives 30 minutes away from my home and my children’s school, I decided that when I dropped the kids off to school, I would just stay on my side of town in order to save on gas. I would eat lunch in my car parked in the shade. My youngest son has afternoon kindergarten, so we would spend our mornings running errands, shipping off RN Brand tees (nice plug) and hanging out at the park. Our bathroom breaks were taken at the park or the grocery store. We made it work. The weather in Las Vegas was still nice, actually hot, so we always had plenty of Capri-suns and juices in the car. By day I felt homeless. But I also felt some sort of freedom. When we would arrive at the park some of the homeless people would be packing up their possessions in order to avoid getting a ticket from the police. But during this time, I could focus completely on my brand and children, not bills, a job, etc. but what I really love. I was able to write more and I even got more clarity on the type of job(s) that I wanted to apply for. And one thing I was certain of is that my time in Las Vegas was coming to an end.

When I would return to my sister’s house in the evening, I would search for jobs, send off my resume, homework with the little ones, eat, shower, sleep, etc.  If I hadn’t given up my place or quit my job, moving back home would have been a thought never acted upon. After being in Las Vegas for 7 years, this was the first year that I said I couldn’t take it anymore.  I need my family; my children need their family.  So many things have been happening behind the scenes and I can’t wait to share how being almost homeless got me exactly where I was suppose to be.

I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

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Merry Christmas: We Are Hitting The Road

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A week and a half before Christmas, the CEO of the company I work for announced that we would be closing for the holidays; there would be no Christmas bonuses and to only expect to be paid for Christmas and New Year’s Day. I immediately thought to myself, “What am I going to do?” Christmas has been rough for the past few years and I finally thought I would be able to make up for all of them this year. I didn’t want to let my children down.

The closer we got to Christmas, the more my children began to ask about getting a Christmas tree. Let’s just say I was feeling the pressure and they deserved everything they were asking for. But I knew I just wouldn’t be able to do it. I was requested to work an additional 6-8 hours per week, which I was grateful for. I worked a part-time schedule Monday. I worked out a part-time schedule with their daycare; they would be spending the rest of Christmas break with me.

On Christmas Eve, we woke up and I started washing clothes. Then it hit me, why should we spend our Christmas not surrounded by family. I’m sure the CEO of my company was with his family and enjoying the holidays. Unannounced to my children, I began packing clothes. I was determined to give them the best gift that I could afford, family.

We drove 9 and a half hours to Northern California and enjoyed every minute of it. They were able to spend time with their cousins, aunts, uncles, grandmothers, great-grandmother and they loved it! Who am I kidding? I enjoyed every minute of it. Saying goodbye was the hardest part of our trip but it was worth every minute of that drive and I would do it all over again. And the picture with my sister, cousin and I in our matching shirts was pretty cool.

How did you spend your Christmas?

 

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Happy Thanksgiving: A Moment To Reflect

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English: Oven roasted turkey, common fare for Christmas and Thanksgiving celebrations. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I’ve been taking this time to reflect on my 2013. I was actually going to make this a facebook status but I soon realized I had too much to reflect on and be thankful for so I decided to turn it into a post.  I like to get still and quiet in order to refocus. This year started off very rough for me. I had no income for the first 3 months (other than my shirts). I lost a dear friend at the end of January; she went to sleep and never woke up. I didn’t know how I was going to continue to live here in Las Vegas. In the 6 years we had known each other she had become a sister to me and like an aunt to my children. The week she passed, she had watched my children in order for me to go on an interview. I was facing eviction and didn’t get the job.

In February, I spent that month assisting my friend’s daughter with getting custody of her younger siblings. At 25 years of age, she had to take on the responsibility of raising her siblings.  I made sure that I was with her through it all in spite of everything I was going through.  I knew that if it were my children facing such a harsh reality, my friend would have done the same thing for them.

By March I was ready to throw in the towel. I remember sitting on the edge of my bed and hearing God say “Don’t Quit”. I tried to ignore it but it just kept getting louder so I decided to write a blog. Within 72 hours, everything changed. I received one of my first wholesale orders of over 100 shirts and overnight the My Scars tees were available in 3 States and 5 boutiques. I traveled to GA for the first time. And that job that had turned me down in January offered me the job in March. But the blessings didn’t stop there.

In August, I flew back to GA but this time I met and stayed with Le’Andria Johnson, an interview I waited 2 years to conduct finally happened face to face. So much has happened in 2013 but if I had quit when I wanted to I don’t know where I would be today.  I thank God for speaking to me in the midst of it all. I drove in to work today listening to Marvin Sapp I Made It Through and the tears began to flow. I made it. Through all heartache, disappointments and pain, I made it through.

The holidays can be rough at times but this Thanksgiving I have so much to be thankful for.  Take some time out to reflect.  And if you can’t think of anything to be thankful for, remember that if you are reading this you at least were able to wake up this morning.

I love you and have a Happy Thanksgiving.

“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

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Preachers’ Daughters: New Lifetime Reality Series

Preachers-DaughtersReality TV does not appear to be going away anytime soon.  However, the story lines and the cast are sure changing.  If the church community didn’t get their feathers ruffled enough with The Sisterhood, I wonder what the response will be to the new Lifetime series, Preachers’ Daughters.  The series is set to premiere March 12th.  Here is a brief description of what we can expect as viewers:

Teaching kids right from wrong may take a village…except when it takes a congregation! Lifetime will premiere its provocative new family docuseries “Preachers’ Daughters,” following the lives of three families for a behind-the-altar look at what happens at home after the sermon concludes, on Tuesday, March 12, at 10pm ET/PT. Produced by Thinkfactory Media (multiple Golden Globe® Award and Emmy®-nominated miniseries “Hatfields & McCoys” and family docusoap “Gene Simmons Family Jewels“), “Preachers’ Daughters” reveals a hard-hitting but often humorous look at the lives of these pastors’ daughters as they balance the temptations every teenager faces with their parents’ strict expectations and code of conduct as influenced by their faith. What happens will change these families forever, and surprise viewers with this unvarnished peek into their lives and the universal issues all households with teenagers face daily.

This particular series for me hits home.  At the age of 11, I became a preacher’s kid or a “PK”.  It was one of the hardest transitions in my life.  It changed everything at home and even public expectations changed.  I was always a well behaved child and your typical “daddy’s girl” but everything changed and even the relationship with my father changed.  So much time that used to be spent with our family was divided with the members of the church and not to mention my father was also the Chief Adjutant to the Bishop.  At some point, I rebelled.  I began doing everything that I knew I shouldn’t have been doing.  No one noticed because no one was around.

I definitely do not feel all “PKs” are “bad” but balance is definitely important.  Pastors spend so much time pouring into their congregation and giving to the ministry that their own families and children can be or feel neglected.  I hope “Preachers’ Daughters” is a true to life look into the life of a “PK” and not a glamorized Hollywood depiction.  I will definitely be watching and will give a review.

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Homeschooling: WAHMs Create The Uncoventional Classroom

My now 4 and 5 year oldWhen I first became a work at home mom (WAHM), I had three non-school age children.  I wasn’t sure how I was going to create the balance or even how I would prepare them one at a time for kindergarten.  I have always been a firm believer of preschool but I knew it was not financially possible to send each one.  It wasn’t until I heard how other WAHMs and SAHMs were creating learning experiences for their children and considering it homeschooling, that I realized I had been creating a classroom for my children all along.

Read more here

What methods have you incorporated in the home for teaching your non-school age children?

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Merry Christmas

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Wow another Christmas is here!!!  The smell of Christmas trees, the sight of dancing lights, the cold winter nights, it’s beginning to feel a lot like Christmas.  It seems like it comes faster every year and it takes me a while to get into the Christmas spirit.  These past couple of days have been spent snuggled up with my children on the couch playing video games.  Everyday they have pleaded to open a gift  but I have managed not to give in.  Watching their excitement and anticipation build is priceless.

 

I am just thankful that we once again received a Christmas miracle.  This year came with many challenges.  But those challenges revealed what was in me.  I was crushed and pressed in more ways than one.  The pressure pushed me to tap into so many gifts that I did not realize I had been given and even feared using.  But they have been unwrapped and I am not wrapping them back up.   So while my children enjoy their toys on Christmas day, I will be celebrating and enjoying the greatest gift ever, purpose.

 

What gift are you hoping for this Christmas?

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