What is Life and My Experiences Trying To Teach Me?

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Who’s Going To Show Their Scars

Who’s going to show their scars with me on this Thursday evening, April 2nd when Tina Campbell shows hers scars on WeTVs Mary Mary reality show? #MyScars

We are almost half way through Season 4 of WEtvs Mary Mary Reality Show starring Multi-Grammy and Stellar Award winners Tina Campbell and Erica Campbell . If you have been tuning in since the beginning of the season, you may have seen the “My Scars” tee on your tv.

Tina Campbell has allowed us viewers to witness vulnerable issues within her marriage while she fought for love. We couldn’t be more excited. Tina Campbell’s testimony and transparency truly captures the essence of the message “I show my scars so that others know they can heal”.  We say, “Tina keep showing your scars.  Someone needs to see your scars.” What did you think about the show?

“Find a way to tell your story; each time you tell your story it heals a part of you.”  ~ Oprah

I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!


You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!


Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning


Protecting My Peace And Joy

love joy and peaceThe past few weeks have been full of joy. I was on a natural high from everything that was happening and lining up in my life. There was a peace that filled my heart, letting me know that I am where I need to be right now. I gave up the stress of worrying about my future while consciously making day to day decisions to live the life I desire. So what happened?

The reality of the world we live in hit me like a ton of bricks. I awaited for the news of Darren Wilson’s indictment for the murder of Mike Brown like most of the world. I would like to say I was surprised by the announcement that there would be no indictment, but I wasn’t. I wasn’t. And that’s what hurts. Because if I were surprised then there would be more hope than fear for the lives of my 4 boys that will one day be young men.

I haven’t made many comments about the outcome or even the current protest. I had a long conversation with a friend of mine about how I was feeling. My faith was tested, my peace was not still and my joy hadn’t come in the morning. I couldn’t understand the thoughts of Darren Wilson’s supporters. I said, “They can’t believe in and pray to the same God that I do. And how much longer do we [African Americans] have to keep praying before things change? Surely someone’s prayer was answered and they were given some mandate or instructions as to what to do.” His response was, “All we can do is make sure that we do what we were sent here to do”. And while I want to do and be all that I was sent here for, his response still wasn’t enough. But the more I began to dwell on it, the more I was robbed of my peace and joy.

One thing is for sure, you have to protect your peace and joy. I understand now more than ever the importance of a daily spiritual practice. The power of meditation and visualizing your peaace, joy and happiness and literally pulling it into your day. And sometimes you just have to still away, shut down and silence all the noise until your sould is replenished. So while I hold my peace, please know that I am striving to do all that I know to do in my corner of this world to bring change.

I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!


You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!


Find out more about the story behind “My Scars”

Sunday Mourning

Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend Final Stop


The Life You Want Tour Final Stop

Oprah Winfrey wrapped up her final tour stop of her eight-city arena tour of Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend (November 14- 15, 2014) in San Jose, CA. Over 10,000 people filled the SAP Center in downtown San Jose. If you were in the area, you could fill the energy even from outside the building. Some attendees came desiring to write a new vision for their life or to turn a lifelong dream of witnessing Oprah live into a reality while others were hoping for words of confirmation. Whatever their purpose was for attending, they indeed found what they were looking for.

O-Town kicked off on Friday evening welcoming guest as early as 10am. O-Town was a pop-up town square outside the venue that gave guest the opportunity to interact with The Life You Want Tour sponsors. Guest could enjoy various activities, makeovers, photo ops, food and music to keep their energy level up throughout the weekend. DJ Kiss kept the crowd dancing and energized while awaiting the evenings guest of honor. The energy level only increased as the time grew closer for Oprah to take the stage for An Evening With Oprah.

She engaged the audience with a narrative of her life and how she had come to know some things for sure. The audience came to know the humble beginnings of the little girl from Mississippi that learned to read by her grandmother, was raped at the age of 9, became pregnant at 14, birthed a son that passed shortly after delivery but recognized her second chance at living the life she desired. “There is always a second chance. If you are still here, you get a second chance to get it right” she said. She left nothing out about her life when speaking of her journey to turn her life around; reiterating the importance of having a spiritual life. She had come to understand the power of God at an early age, quoting one of her favorite scriptures, “Acts 17:28 For in him we live, and move, and have our being…”. When she was uncertain of what to do, she rest assured that the answer would come during her quiet time with God under the oak tree. And then center stage she began to sing I Surrender All. She was the only one to speak on Friday evening but the seeds planted would continue to grow into something more on Saturday as she introduced each Trailblazer.

“It has been a dream of mine forever to create an event where you can wake up to all of your potential and possibilities. If you come and spend two days with me and a team of true life trailblazers – Deepak Chopra, Elizabeth Gilbert, Iyanla Vanzant and Pastor Bell – your life is going to light up.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

Oprah not only lived out her dream but she provided the tools for her audience to awaken and achieve theirs. Each trailblazer brought a different source of enlightenment to the weekend for an entire mind, body and spirit experience. If you hadn’t been moved to tears on Friday, you were sure to reach for a kleenex on Saturday. In between the speakers on Saturday, Oprah guided the audience in “life work”, reflecting, coming to terms with where they are, what they desire and creating a new vision through meditation to achieve their deepest desires.

Iyanla Vanzant

At the conclusion of The Life You Want weekend, Oprah’s Trailblazers expressed there gratitude and honored Oprah with their words. It was a moving display of their appreciation to be afforded such an amazing platform to share their journeys. So what better way for those in attendance to honor Oprah than by also giving her their words. Below find some of the words from those in attendance in various States along the tour and how they plan to use the tools provided to them during Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend.



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I will do something daily in order to live the life I desire.

I will…create the life I want by dreaming big, setting audacious goals and continuing to dream and act BIG. ~ Stephanie B. – San Jose, CA

I will not only create a new vision for my life but walk in it.

I will commit to wake up looking for the light + seeking ways to serve others. I’ll continue to embrace the life I have as I work toward creating the life I want for my family + my business. ~ Camesha G. San Jose, CA

I will listen to the whispers of life that speak to me and guide me along my journey.

I will dream bigger dreams for myself and know that I’m worthy of them. I will pursue them knowing that I have within me what I need to achieve it. Through this process I will work to inspire others to do the same. ~ Jenn B. Houston, TX

I will stand and walk in courage believing that the life I desire is on the other side of every obstacle.

I will live a life focused on gratitude and service to others. I will make no excuses for my joy and accept the blessings that I receive. I will embrace the wonderfulness of life and focus my energy on those things that align with my passion and purpose. I will strive to embrace my divatude on a daily basis and motivate others to do the same. ~ Michelle G. Atlanta, GA.

I will be the best authentic version of myself possible.

I will design my purpose & bring it to full manifestation after seeing Oprah, Kim Garst & Simon T. Bailey this year. All where GREAT game changers for me. I will shine brightly and make each one see the POWER of their teachings and word with me. ~ Kimberly W. Atlanta, GA

I will show compassion when offended, love when hated and be still in peace when confused.

I will deepen my spiritual practice and repeat daily affirmations of what I want in life to myself. ~ Jenee D. San Jose, CA
I will serve with pure intentions.
I will not leave the little girl in me behind that was once wounded. I am her and I wouldn’t be here or get to where I’m going without her.
I will share my story. My valleys, my triumphs, my fears, my joys, my frustrations and my peace so others fighting to live the life they too desire can see that no matter what comes their way, it’s possible.
I will not take this gift that you so freely gave for granted.
I will rise. We will rise. Together we will rise.

If you attended Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend during any of the eight tour stops, leave your “I will” statement in the comments and share this post.

The Life You Want: More Than Just A Tour But An Affirmation

The Life You Want Weekend LogoWhat better way to begin a new journey in life than by attending The Life You Want Weekend in San Jose, CA.  I am so honored to be attending The Life You Want Tour as a media guest.  I woke up last night (in the middle of the night  like I do every night) and to my surprise an email was awaiting me from OWN letting me know that I was confirmed to attend.  But let me take a minute to back track as to how it was even made possible for me to attend.  I received a call a few weeks ago from a friend who just so happens to be the Editor In Chief of Swagher Magazine.  She let me know that she was not going to be able to attend The Life You Want Tour in Houston.  But she wanted to know if I knew of someone in the Houston, TX area that could go as a correspondent for the magazine.  I immediately thought of my other friend who happens to be the Editor In Chief of Mind Of A Diva.  I connected the two and the rest was history.  I am a firm believer that what you make happen for others God/the universe will make happen for you.

“It has been a dream of mine forever to create an event where you can wake up to all of your
potential and your possibilities. If you come and spend two days with me and a team of true life
trailblazers – Deepak Chopra, Elizabeth Gilbert, Iyanla Vanzant, Mark Nepo and Pastor Rob Bell –
your life is going to light up. I’m telling you, it’s going to be so good.”
–Oprah Winfrey

So now I am preparing myself for this amazing weekend.  I have been doing the daily meditations with Oprah and Deepak Chopra for the past few days this week.  I am getting myself laser focused on my goals and desires.  I want to be in position for 2015 and beyond to LIVE the life that I desire.  I happen to have some friends that have attended the tour in other cities and states like Atlanta and DC.  They have all spoken very highly of the weekend.

Did you attend The Life You Want weekend or do you know someone that did?  How did it impact you?  If you didn’t attend, how are you preparing yourself for the New Year?  Are you creating a vision board/journal?  Let’s inspire one another to live the life that we desire.  I can wait to share with you my “aha moments”.

About “Oprah’s The Life You Want Weekend”

Harpo Studios, O, The Oprah Magazine, OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network and WME Live have joined together for this unprecedented eight-city arena tour and transformational weekend featuring Oprah Winfrey and a team of special guests, sponsored by Olay and Toyota. On Friday nights, Oprah will take the stage, bringing her personal story and insights to life in a one of a kind intimate evening. Then on Saturdays, Oprah will lead a day-long gathering of thousands with handpicked thought leaders and pop culture icons including Iyanla Vanzant, star of OWN’s hit series “Iyanla Fix My Life,” regular O Magazine contributor, best-selling author and spiritual life coach; best-selling author of Eat Pray Love, Elizabeth Gilbert; and one of Time 100’s Most Influential people, Pastor Rob Bell. Additionally, world-renowned author and pioneer in mind-body medicine Dr. Deepak Chopra (Appearing in Atlanta GA, Houston TX, Miami FL, San Jose CA) and author Mark Nepo (Appearing in Auburn Hills MI, Washington DC, Newark NJ, Seattle WA) will take the stage.

For more information about the tour, visit: www.oprahweekend.com

Also on Saturday, paralympian and “Dancing With the Stars” finalist Amy Purdy will join Oprah on stage for Toyota’s “Standing O-Vation,” which will recognize extraordinary people in communities
around the country. The driving force behind Toyota’s “Standing O-Vation” stems from the automaker’s commitment to fostering women’s interests. While reflecting the kind of stories that define the brand, Toyota’s “Standing O-Vation” is an opportunity to celebrate remarkable women who are not only making the world a better place, but also motivating others to spark theirown journey of personal change.



Brittany Maynard Dies With Dignity

doveI Am Thankful For My Quality of Life

Brittany Maynard, 29, was diagnosed with stage IV brain cancer and moved to Portland, Oregon a few months ago in order to terminate her life.  Under Oregon’s Death With Dignity Act, a terminally ill patient can legally end their life through voluntary self administration of lethal medications.  Brittany spent her last months of life after being diagnosed in the spring, surrounded by family and traveling when her health allowed her to.  The effects of the brain cancer became more and more debilitating.  Brittany, her husband, family and friends seemed to be at peace with the decision that she made.

“My glioblastoma is going to kill me and that’s out of my control,” she told PEOPLE last month.

“I’ve discussed with many experts how I would die from it and it’s a terrible, terrible way to die.

So being able to choose to go with dignity is less terrifying.”

Brittany Maynard’s mental state didn’t seem to be one of hopelessness, helplessness or desperation as I can remember feeling when I attempted suicide over 7 years ago.  I wasn’t at peace with my family, friends or even God.  I wanted out because life for me seemed too painful.  However, in retrospect I had the power to change my circumstances and situation.  I am thankful that God gave me another chance not only to change my life but to find my life’s purpose.  Brittany Maynard didn’t have the power to change her life/health.  But maybe just maybe she found her purpose and fulfilled it.  She became the public face of the right-to-die movement.  She lived her final moments on her terms and may have taught us a little about compassion.  We can never understand what she was experiencing.  I can only remember the last 3 days I spent with my father when he too was battling brain cancer.  He had been given 6 months and survived 9 but during his final days he couldn’t say anything at all.  He had lost so much weight and it wasn’t the father I had known for the previous 30 years of my life.  When the doctors began administering morphine, I knew I only had a matter of hours left with my father.

I wish I could have had one last conversation with my father.  I wish he could have told me what he was thinking in those final moments.  I wish my last memory of him was not lying in a bed with tubes connected to him.  I wish he could have died with dignity because maybe I would have known he was dying sooner than just the last 3 days of his life.  He didn’t tell anyone when he was diagnosed.  His words were, ‘I don’t want my children to worry”.  Brittany was even able to leave some last words not just to her family and friends but to the rest of us that have been touched by her story.

“Goodbye to all my dear friends and family that I love.

Today is the day I have chosen to pass away with dignity in the face of my terminal illness, this terrible brain cancer that has taken so much from me

… but would have taken so much more,” she wrote on Facebook. “The world is a beautiful place, travel has been my greatest teacher, my close friends and folks are the greatest givers.

I even have a ring of support around my bed as I type … Goodbye world. Spread good energy. Pay it forward!”

Today, I am thankful for my life, the people in it and my health.  I am thankful for the opportunity to discover and live out my life’s purpose.  I am thankful for the ability to understand what others may be facing, show compassion and be free of judgement.

I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

Have you liked the Showing Our Scars Facebook Page? We are “Showing Our Scars”!


You can also order your “My Scars” Tee!


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Sunday Mourning


My Son Doesn’t Want Anyone To Know How Brilliant He Is


My 6 year old is a performer in every since of the word. He spends hours on end studying the late Michael Jackson, dancing to Beat It and Billie Jean and you can catch him moonwalking down the aisles of the grocery store. Sometimes I think he has been here before. But when I ask him to read to me for 20 minutes at night as a part of his nightly homework, he acts as if he is shy or uninterested. In fact, last year while he was still in kindergarten just getting him to do his homework was a task. The crazy thing is when he graduated from kindergarten at his ceremony he was awarded an excellent reading award along with four other children and had to read a passage to us in the audience. I’m convinced that he only did it because in his mind he was performing instead of in fact demonstrating his academic achievement.

Now in the 1st grade, he is still excelling in reading and mathematics but all he wants to be is the class clown. When I visited his classroom, he took me around the room, reading all the posters on the walls, explaining how everything works in his classroom, etc. But his teacher let me know that he likes to keep his classmates laughing. I have to admit he has a great sense of humor and is witty but that is not what he’s at school for.  However, he has brought home straight A’s on just about all of his assignments since school started.

I remember all of the stories my parents used to share about my sister. She also enjoyed being a class clown and kept my parents in the principal’s office but she did amazing academically.  And she still likes to be the life of every party.  It just so happens that their birthdays are 3 days apart.   I also did well in school but I was shy and timid then (I’m far from shy now).  I loved learning and kept my head in a book.  But why am I getting all the stuff back that my sister did to our parents, shouldn’t she be dealing with it?  I haven’t had any trips to the principal’s office and I’m going to figure out a way to keep that from happening unless it’s to receive an award. Some performing arts classes are definitely in his future.

Have you dealt with a class clown? What positive outlet did you use to keep them on track academically while helping develop the performer in them?