Activate 2K15 Conference: I Am Building My Empire

Activate 2K15 ConferenceIn just two weeks, I am headed to Atlanta to attend the Activate 2K15 Conference hosted by the Chief Activator, Lucinda Cross. I was heading back from Dallas, TX after attending MegaFest and received an inbox message asking if I could make it to the Conference because a ticket was being gifted to me. Why? I didn’t ask any details because I know what I have been praying for. So my response was YEEEESSSS! I booked my flight and reserved my hotel room and I am headed to Atlanta with great expectations.

The Activate Conference is a 3-day conference that provides attendees with groundbreaking information in the areas of leadership, branding, media, spirituality and leadership. I firmly believe that you have to surround yourself with people that can push you to your next level; people that are where you desire to be. I am ready to Activate!!!!  Visit to check out the amazing line up of speakers and panelists then register!  I hope to see you in Atlanta.

Lucinda Cross is a best-selling author, internationally known speaker, spokesperson and energetic teacher of personal and professional development. In 2006, she started the brand Activate Your Life Today! a leadership services firm that specializes in the delivery of personal and professional development enrichment programs.


The Life You Want: Oprah I Had An Aha Moment

Rhachelle Nicol' and Curly Lox

If you recall, last year I had the opportunity to attend Oprah Winfrey’s The Life You Want Weekend in San Jose, CA as press. Over the course of that weekend, the attendees were challenged to find one thing that they could do daily for the next year in order to live the life they want. I thought I would tackle this challenge by intentionally waking up each day and doing something that would push me closer to my goal; sending an email, returning a call, etc. But I soon realized that my efforts were not focused enough on one area/thing in my life that I wanted to change. I was seeing results but some days I was putting forth less effort and just going through the motions.

But I soon realized that even though I wasn’t clear on my approach I was still being guided in the right direction. Last year, I made up in my mind that I was relocating back to California. I planned to live with my sister for at least a year, work, save money and build my business. Well on a larger scale that was/is my one thing that I am doing daily. Daily I am making an effort to blend 3 families (a friend of mine accepted the challenge). We are three single mothers choosing to create our own village, support each others visions and build our businesses, together. Can you imagine 3 women ages 36-40 under one roof, raising a total of 8 children? It can get crazy at times but we always remember our “why?”

We attend church together, prepare meals together and we push one another to go after our dreams. “I am not my sister’s keeper. I am my sister.” My season of the “Ruth and Naomi” relationship. I am surrounded by those that not only give me a list of things I “should” do but take it further and say come with me and I will show. “And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God:” Ruth 1:16

I am so excited about this season of my life! And I can’t wait to share more with you about the challenges and victories of blending 3 families and building 3 businesses.

“I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

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Progress Is The Goal

I have been writing this blog in my head for the past few months. At first, I was beating myself up for not writing as much as I had been. But with progress being the goal, I must admit that I have made a lot of progress in other areas of my life. On December 23, 2014 I finally made moving back home to California a reality. Though it still feels like I’m just on an extended vacation, I snap out of it every Monday while I sit in traffic headed to work. Yes, in that 2 month time period, I received 3 job offers. Not to mention that during my first week of work my boss informed me he was signing me up for B-school with Marie Forleo.

My Scars Chat - SFSU

My Scars Chat – SFSU

And if relocating and starting a new job isn’t enough progress, I was also planning the first My Scars Chat of 2015. I was so honored this past Wednesday to be back on the campus of my Alma Mater, San Francisco State University, along with my undergraduate chapter of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc and host a My Scars Chat with young women and men that were eager to learn and discuss the impact of domestic violence. And they showed their scars! They opened up and discussed some of their life experiences. They talked about the concerns they had for friends and I am confident that they left empowered and will continue to show their scars so that others know they can heal.

So no I have not been vacationing and over-indulging in free time but progressing forward. I have clients that I am also working with and bringing their brand messages to life through t-shirts. One thing is for certain I am content with where I am and I am going to find a way to celebrate myself very soon. I am learning not to be so hard on myself. Every seed that I plant is not going to blossom overnight but if I keep taking steps towards reaching my goals one day they will be achieved. “The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.”

Erica Campbell Showing Her Scars

Erica Campbell Showing Her Scars

And then there is that moment when you receive a text from a friend of a picture that she saw on Instagram of one of your favorite gospel singers and half of Mary Mary, wearing a My Scars shirt. Then you’re told by your Sorority sister that Tina Campbell wore hers on the Mary Mary reality show and you catch the promo clip. It reinforced that fact that, I may not be “busy” (doing stuff just to pass the time) but I am definitely making progress. What goals have you set? What are you doing to achieve them? Are you making progress? Do you need an accountability partner? I’m listening!

I show my scars so that others know they can heal.” Someone needs to see your scars!

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Starting Over Challenge

Losing to Gain

Losing to Gain

If you have ever taken a road trip with me, then you know that my sense of direction is a little off. A few stops at a gas station for directions may occur, illegal u-turns, etc no matter how many navigational devices or maps are at my disposal. I have also encountered many dead-ends. In each instance, I was forced to look back over the path that I had taken and make a different choice. Sometimes in life, we also have to make the decision to look back or reflect on the past in order to take another course.

I was presented with an opportunity to take part in a Starting Over Challenge. Initially I thought to myself, “I don’t need to start over, I just need better tools and support to move forward”. I didn’t want to look back because I felt like what was behind me had already been resolved. But I soon realized that was not the case.

I have always been transparent about my journey. I started off discussing some of my own strongholds and the difficulty I had with surrendering it all. I discussed my failed relationship, my family, my journey as a single mother, my faith and my dreams but not my fears. I am realizing now that if I don’t conquer my fears they will conquer me. So I am starting over and dealing with the fear that makes me afraid of success. The fear that is keeping me back. The fear that continues to dim my light. The fear that camouflages itself as procrastination, irritation and lack of focus. I am giving of that fear so that I can gain freedom and the success that I deserve.

I am surrounded by over 400 women who are committed to starting over, holding each other accountable and supporting one another along the process. These first 31 days of 2013 are going to prune some areas of my life that have never served me but hindered me. If you feel like you have become stagnant in your progress and growth. I challenge you to also start over. You don’t have to dwell on the pass, but instead reflect on it and release those things from your life that have hindered you or are no longer serving you. By starting over, you can start this year better, in a better position and mindset to do exactly what has been purposed in your heart.

I will see you at the finish line!

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Year End: Going Out With A Bang

I couldn’t have asked for a better way to end one week and start another. On this past Saturday, I was so excited to finally host Mission Possible, a vision board workshop I had envisioned over a year ago. It was a great success and each participant was full of so much energy. They were all so attentive and ready to take in all that was being shared.


I always start off by sharing a portion of my personal story. Almost 3 years ago, I found myself out of a job and not knowing what my next move would be. Single mother of 5 with no source of income, in a different State from my family and support system. When I first moved to NV, I could feel an overwhelming sense of need. When I say need, I mean services, hope, direction and more. I started writing a program plan then to provide a continuum of services within the community from adolescence on through adulthood. That very plan sat dormant for two years. But during the first two years here, I was hired by the County to work as a case manager. I was basically providing the services that I had written about. However, I also got an inside view of what was really lacking in the State that I was now residing in. It was as if God had provided a means to get on the job training for the work He was preparing me to do.

So fast forward, after losing my job, I had to shake off the frustration and disappointment of losing it and realize that God had even greater plans. I remember sitting in my livingroom one day and I was reminded of the business plan that I had once written. In that moment, Mother 2 Mother was born. I always get excited when I share that story. Mission Possible is not just an event but a true life testimony. If you have visited my site before, then you also know that during this time I began writing my book.

“Need nothing, desire everything.”

I began writing my book on my blackberry. At the time, I didn’t have a computer but I made use of what I had. I downloaded every app under the sun that I thought I would need. I explained to the group that when we start feeling as though we “need” something what we are actually lacking is creativity. I got creative. I even started my blog on my blackberry. When I needed to spruce up my blog, I went to the library. I was eventually able to purchase my computer. But I didn’t let what would have appeared to be an obstacle stand in my way.

“Delight yourself in Him and He will give you the desires of your heart.”

The Law of Attraction may not be for everyone.  But before I was introduced to the Law of Attraction, I read the book of Genesis.  Abraham was a man of faith.  He believe that God would deliver just what He had promised.  He believed it so, that he trusted that if God didn’t do it in his lifetime then his children would be blessed.  And if his children didn’t receive it that their children would be blessed.  Yes, I went there.  Abraham, Isaac and Jacob were men of faith and the faith they had is still here today.  Tap into that faith and get started.

There is no doubt in my mind that everyone left motivated and inspired to begin moving forward with their dreams and goals.

Then on Sunday, I celebrated my 5 year old’s birthday. We’ve added two new members to the family, Nemo and Plex. Let’s just hope mommy can keep them alive.   We ended the birthday evening with a tiramisu cake at the request of the birthday boy.


How was your weekend? Are you ready for the great week ahead of you?

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3 Things You Must Have in 2013


Vision_Board_Sept_2010_inprogress (Photo credit: WiseWellWoman)

If I was to lose all of my material possessions today, there would be 3 things that I would try my best to hold on to.  2011 and 2012 have taught me the importance of having a vision, plan or goal, and a journal to write it all down.

Vision:  A vision forces you to be in tune with who you are and what you were created to be.  A vision puts the focus on the outcome and not the current circumstances.  It allows you to push through the most difficult times, knowing that it won’t be like this always.  A vision keeps you up late at night and gives life to your purpose.

Plan or Goal:  Your plan or goal(s) become the very blueprint to navigating through your vision.   While the vision keeps you focused on the end result, your plans and goals tell you that there is still some work to be done.  You begin to see what you can do and what you may need assistance with completing.  Your weaknesses and strengths may be revealed but instead of being discouraged you may just add a new goal to the list.

Journal:  “And the Lord answered me, and said, Write the vision, and engrave it so plainly upon tablets that everyone who passes may [be able to ] read [it easily and quickly] as he hastens by.” Habakkuk 2:2  Yes, you need something to write all down in.  When you begin to write things down, rewrite them and further explain them it makes it easier for people to understand and even assist with bringing the vision to past.  You have to understand, know and believe in whatever it is that you are working towards.  In 2011, I wrote that I wanted to create my own t-shirt line.  I didn’t know how I was going to do it and how soon it would all take place but the more I wrote about it, the more things were revealed.  I’ve been spending the last few weeks reflecting on journal entries.  Some of the things taking place in my life right now, were a mere journal entry a year ago.

I promise you, if you can hold onto these three things you will begin to see things happen.  On Dec. 8th, Mission Possible, a vision board event that I wrote in my journal a year ago will finally take place.  Daja Robinson of No Boiz Allowed and I are excited and grateful for all those who have helped to make this possible.  FireHouse Subs for providing lunch for our guest.  Zari Banks for her countless donations to Mother 2 Mother down throughout the year, Kanina Johnson for gifting a copy of her book, Walk In Your Power and many more.  If you are in the Las Vegas area, join us.  You do not want to miss this event!

2013: Make No Resolutions

English: New Year's Resolutions postcard

English: New Year’s Resolutions postcard (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Where did the time go? 2012 introduced so many opportunities, some seized and others re-evaluated and passed over.  I did not begin the year with a list of resolutions but clear goals and a plan.  Instead of focusing on what I no longer would do, I shifted my focus to what I wanted and what I would do to accomplish it.  So I am going to bring in 2013 the same way.  Here are few things that I have started doing now in order to ensure they are engraved in my memory in 2013.

Starting My Work Day Earlier vs Working Later

I have been working on a new sleep schedule.  I am a night owl and sometimes insomnia gets the best of me.  However, long nights don’t work with early mornings.  I have noticed that staying up late makes it that much harder for me to start my day in the morning.  So for the past week or so I have been working towards starting my day at 5;30am and ending my work day around 9pm.  Let me tell you my mind thinks it is a great idea but my body hates it.  They say it takes 30 days to make something a habit so I am glad I am starting early.

Lunch For Two

Typically lunch is spent either at home with my 3 and 4 year old or we go out for lunch.  I have officially gotten my 3 and 4 year old addicted to sushi, greek olives, feta cheese and Pho, just to name a few of our favorites lunch items.  You would think that the three of us were having some sort of master mind business meetings once the bill comes to the table.  Well in 2013, I will still be going to lunch but the 3 and 4 year will be going to a sitter and I will be meeting with other business minded individuals, to brainstorm, re-focus, strategize and plan.

Creating Balance

For the past two years almost three, I have conducted a great majority of my business online.  I have built some phenomenal relationships with women all across the world.  These relationship have grown even offline to frequent phone conversations.  Now in 2013, I plan to do a little more traveling and organizing meet ups, interacting a lot more locally and balance my online interactions with my offline interactions.

So many changes are coming in 2013 and I might as well plan for them.  I am focusing on the do’s and not the don’t’s.  I started the year with a clear vision.  I wanted to start a t-shirt line and now looking back I did just that.  I must say I was reluctant at first and didn’t know how it would go but it was the best risk I could have ever taken.  I started taking my writing even more serious than before and began quite a few new features to the site.  RN Series and Author Interviews stretched me and also helped rediscover a passion.  I began writing for a local newspaper which has created even more opportunities.  I am going into the New Year with endless possibilities, full of energy and a plan.

What are some of your do’s for 2013?

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