Losing to Win: Evelyn Lozada’s Journey to Healing


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We’ve watched Evelyn Lozada rise to the rank of a Reality TV star, marry her on camera and off camera beau, Chad Johnson (Ochocinco) and become the victim of domestic violence. Evelyn, most known for her bullying behavior, no holds bar opinions and recent tumultuous relationship has lost a lot over the course of this year, bestfriend, Jennifer Williams, and now her marriage. Evelyn became the Basketball wife we all loved to hate. And after seeing her on screen relationships with her girlfriends and Chad her life became a little predictable. We knew just about every week she would end up in a caddy argument, picking a fight and we definitely knew that she would say “yes” if ever popped the question.

But one thing we probably didn’t see coming, I know I didn’t, is Evelyn seeking help and acknowledging her bad girl behavior. Fix My Life, a new series on the Own Network with relationship expert, Iyanla Vanzant, is being described as “the reality show you have never seen before.” And to my surprise, Evelyn Lozada actually sought out the guidance and began filming for the show in early July before her domestic violence incident with Chad. So what may have appeared as a downward spiral will hopefully end in some good. If there is anyone that can get to the root of a thing it is Iyanla. Hopefully Evelyn has had enough of being “about that life” and continues to evolve and grow into the woman she is destined to be.

This morning on my facebook status I posted a scripture that I have been meditating on. “But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you.” 1 Peter 5:10 We all suffer in different ways, relationships, financially, physically, etc. but sometimes our greatest lessons come out of our greatest sufferings. While we caught a glimpse of Evelyn’s story behind the camera, I can only pray that God is completing her story behind the scenes.

Fix My Life premieres on September 15th and 16th at 10/9c on OWN

“Building relationships of accountability and trust with all roads leading to love.” RATL


5 comments on “Losing to Win: Evelyn Lozada’s Journey to Healing

  1. I for one am glad shes getting help. There has to be a reason why she is always so angry, and hopefully Iyanla can figure it out. I was so surprised to see people saying she deserved what happened to her, because of how she is on BBW. I pray that she fixes her life, if not for her, for her daughter & the other young girls who watch her shows.

  2. When the whole domestic violence case happened, then the filing for divorce, cancel of the reality show and so on, I didn’t know how to feel because all I remember from Evelyn was this angry woman who was the center of drama every week on our television screens and twitter debates. I felt like all of the bullying and disrespect she has shown toward others finally came back to give her a taste of her own medicine. However, I do not and will never ever feel that violence/domestic violence is ever okay. I am happy she has stuck with her decision on removing herself from such a relationship and is seeking the necessary help.

    Great post Rhachelle.

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